Dating for older people

yourdeadwright

Hey folks
I'm not sure if i'm aloud ask this here if not that ok , but I have a family member who is in her 50's who's husband died 15 years ago,
She hasn't gone out with anyone or been interested in anyone since, but the time has come in life that she is feeling lonely and would like to meet someone,more for the company and to have someone of similar interests to talk to than anything else, but she doesn't know where to start,
Is there any place for older people to meet or any dating websites that are good for people like this,
Any help at all would be great,

zoobizoo

Matchmaking Agency?

Expensive but could be a good way for them to ease them selves back into dating.

Tigger99

I've heard a lot of stories about how rubbish those agencies are.

How about having a look on meetup.com for groups that interest her? It's not a dating website but I know lots of people that have met their partners through it.

yourdeadwright

thanks for the reply's .
It can be hard at any age trying to meet new people but its the older generation I feel for the most ,

Taltos

There is a private online dating forum here you could try, feedback has a dedicated thread where you can request access.
Otherwise would something like meetup.com be a good way to just meeting like mnded people to see if anything can naturally develop. Takes the pressure off going out on dates -which after so long would be terrifying for anyone.

Other than that get her into some local activities. Just socialising or meeting different people can be a start, the longer she leaves it though the more excuses she'll come up with and may even need some friendly encouragement or company to go. If choosing a local activity try to pick something that will be mixed otherwise it's self defeating - well it's still a great way to meet people and build friendships but you know what I mean.

Meetup.com would be great for her. There are so many groups, some specifically for older people and some for all ages, she's bound to find something she likes. And even if she doesn't meet a man, it'll help her to make more friends and I'm sure it will do her confidence the world of good.

MouseTail

The same sites you young ones use, well not tinder, but the mainstream dating sites have a sizeable older cohort using them. There is an oul wans 'n oul fellas forum on boards, maybe ask there which ones are the most popular.

Emme

Don't touch dating agencies with a bargepole. She'd have a better chance of meeting someone if she went to the races and blew the money on a horse. She'd also have fun watching the horse run and she'd have some chance of getting her money back. With a dating agency the money is gone and at best she'll get a few dodgy dates with men who will make her glad to be on her own.

I agree with some other people here. She should join meetup.com, there are groups for the over 50s and for all interests. She could also join the regular dating sites but I think she would be better off getting out and meeting people face to face. If she makes some good friends then meeting another man might not be such a big deal.

yourdeadwright

Emme wrote: »

Don't touch dating agencies with a bargepole. She'd have a better chance of meeting someone if she went to the races and blew the money on a horse. She'd also have fun watching the horse run and she'd have some chance of getting her money back. With a dating agency the money is gone and at best she'll get a few dodgy dates with men who will make her glad to be on her own.

I agree with some other people here. She should join meetup.com, there are groups for the over 50s and for all interests. She could also join the regular dating sites but I think she would be better off getting out and meeting people face to face. If she makes some good friends then meeting another man might not be such a big deal.

Thanks for all the advice,
its a tuff one cause its she's been alone so long she is nervous going out to meet new people but I guess the first time will be the hardest

Thanks

RhubarbCrumble

I think lot a lot of others have said, something like meetup.com may be the way to go alright. There's no pressure there to be romantically interested in someone and it would be an easier way of getting to know people without feeling under pressure.

OP, does she have any hobbies/interests at all? I only ask because a few years ago a friend of mine (52 at the time) joined a photography evening course. She had no intention of meeting anyone etc, just had an interest in photography and wanted to learn more. She became friendly with a few people on the course and just clicked with one guy (she was separated, he was widowed and both had grown up kids) They've been together about three years now

daisybelle2008

+1 for the evening classes, my Dad meet his girlfriend that way and she is in her 50's like your Relatve