Biirthday

Molly999

H,

This is going to be a short thread.
Bascially, my step nother never even text me to say happy birthday. Im am beyond hurt. Should I text her saying how hurt I am or just leave it? We have long history of not likking each other

Aint Eazy Being Cheezy

No, don't text. If you don't like her anyway then why'd you care?

LLMMML

Molly999 wrote: »

H,

This is going to be a short thread.
Bascially, my step nother never even text me to say happy birthday. Im am beyond hurt. Should I text her saying how hurt I am or just leave it? We have long history of not likking each other

No do not text her. Bad relationships are never improved by angry gestures. As you don't get on with your stepmother, you probably shouldn't expect kind gestures from her until your relationship has improved.

njs030

Molly999 wrote: »

H,

This is going to be a short thread.
Bascially, my step nother never even text me to say happy birthday. Im am beyond hurt. Should I text her saying how hurt I am or just leave it? We have long history of not likking each other

I think you should examine why you feel hurt when you also say you don't like her. It shouldn't matter if you don't like her.

Molly999

notjustsweet wrote: »

I think you should examine why you feel hurt when you also say you don't like her. It shouldn't matter if you don't like her.

I'm just an incredibly sensitive person. You are all soooooooooo right. Why should I give a f**k. It's tough becuase when it was her bday, I got all the drink for the dinner we through for her. Alll the prosscco, chocates flowers.Just feel like a complete mug

freshpopcorn

People forget Birthdays. Not on purpose, they just have other things going on in their lives and don't have the time to think.

Penny Tration

Molly999 wrote: »

I'm just an incredibly sensitive person. You are all soooooooooo right. Why should I give a f**k. It's tough becuase when it was her bday, I got all the drink for the dinner we through for her. Alll the prosscco, chocates flowers.Just feel like a complete mug

So that just means you're nicer than she is.

Don't make a fool of yourself by sending angry messages. Just leave her to it. You don't like her, so her opinion doesn't matter anyway.

Just don't go buying flowers, chocolates and alcohol for her next year!

Into The Blue

Molly999 wrote: »

I'm just an incredibly sensitive person. You are all soooooooooo right. Why should I give a f**k. It's tough becuase when it was her bday, I got all the drink for the dinner we through for her. Alll the prosscco, chocates flowers.Just feel like a complete mug

Presume you bought the stuff for her birthday for the sake of your husband.. You did a nice thing for him, don't ruin it now by texting..

Fūck her, lifes too short.

Molly999

Into The Blue wrote: »

Presume you bought the stuff for her birthday for the sake of your husband.. You did a nice thing for him, don't ruin it now by texting..

Fūck her, lifes too short.

My step mother. Not my mother in law.

<SNIP>

Penny Tration

Molly999 wrote: »

My step mother. Not my mother in law.
It's so difficult because I am going through such a hard time at the moment. Basically feeling suicidal and things like this just add to those thoughts. Why is she such a f**king bitch to me. I really don't want to be here anymore.

If you're feeling that way, I think the best thing you can do now is focus on yourself, forget about your stepmother, and go speak to your GP to get help with how you're feeling.

Lisha

Molly, please go to your doctor and discuss the feelings you are having about suicide.

Molly, nothing you do wil ever change how your Step Mom behaves. The only thing that you can change is how you react to her.

Please get counseling to help you work through this. Otherwise this dislike fur her will color your life and consume you.
Live your own life, be happy and stop worrying about things you can neither control or change.

Best of luck Molly and a belated happy birthday.

amdublin

You don't know why she's forgotten maybe she has lots of stuff going on.

I bet lots of other people text you - why not focus on the people who did text amd not the people who didn't.

She sounds like she is not worth even an angry text from yourself and will sending that a text even make you feel better at all?

Barely There

Molly999 wrote: »

We have long history of not likking each other

It's kind of baffling that you would be expecting a 'Happy Birthday' text so.

Rubberchikken

you may have done all you can to have her like you but it's not possible to make someone do that, so at the end of the day you have to decide whether you want to keep trying or just let this go. only you can decide.

i'd suggest getting on with your life. don't bend over backwards to give her things at her birthday etc. you say she doesn't like you, so stop putting yourself out for this person.

and Happy Birthday:)

Merkin

Molly, I suggest you speak to someone immediately if you are having such thoughts. We can also link you into some professional services if you want to drop me a PM. Unfortunately nobody here is equipped or qualified to help.