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Homesick

  • 25-08-2015 8:47am
    #1
    LegacyUser
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    This may sound a little silly but here goes...


    I've been living away from home for ten years. Well settled in job, house etc. I get home a few times during the year, but not as much as I'd like at times.

    Took a month summer holidays and headed home - about 100 miles away. And I loved every minute of it. I had more energy than I've had in a year, was up and about every day, visited friends and family, really enjoyed myself. Work hasn't been great lately so was glad to get a break and thought that I would come back energised and ready to go again.

    I'm only back a few days and I hate it. I hate where I live, the work is tough, I'm teary, I'm upset, I'm anxious, I don't want to do anything.

    I feel ridiculous for being homesick at this age. I have a good job, I have good opportunities if I take them but at this moment, I would happily hand in my resignation. I know that's not the answer but I feel like I can't stay here.


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  • #2
    LegacyUser
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    I don't really see the issue here. If you want to move home,do. Look at jobs before moving back and try line a few things up.

    Doesn't matter what age you,everyone has the ability to become homesick and you shouldn't feel silly.


  • #3
    castaway_lady
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 268 ✭✭castaway_lady


    Home is only 100 miles away. You could go home every weekend if you really wanted or at least monthly. Maybe increase the frequency of visits and see if the appeal lasts before you commit to a full-time move.

    No harm in having a mooch in the jobs market anyway so see what's available.

    Don't get into the trap of all or nothing thinking unnecessarily.


  • #4
    iusedtoknow
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    100 miles is nothing - I know people that commute that on a daily basis, each way.

    As others have said, maybe spend a bit more time there - not just weekends but some time when people are too busy to go out of their way to meet with you due to their own work, the weather is miserable, the laundry needs done etc.

    I think when we're away, we idealize how much we'll be doing when we're "home". However life will tick on, it'll just be in a different place.


  • #5
    ManOfMystery
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    Life is short, so why waste time being somewhere or doing something that isn't satisfying you 100%? There is nothing 'ridiculous' about being homesick. When we're in our teens all most of us want to do is get out and see the big world, but as you get older and the novelty has worn off, being back home can be very calming and I know I'm more content and happier when I'm there.

    As said, if you'd feel happier being nearer home and nearer family, it's 100% your choice if you want to move - assuming you have no children or partner who needs to be consulted also.

    Bear in mind however, that being home for a weekend or even an extended break of a few weeks does not mean you're going to wake up feeling chirpy and fresh if you were living there 24/7, 365 days a year. It's the holiday effect. So just be totally sure before making any drastic changes.


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