Constantly worried

ola!

Im hoping by writing this down that it might help and maybe someone here can give me some advice.

I run my own small business with a few staff in the services industry .Nothing fancy but it gives my family a comfortable lifestyle and means i can work from a home office most of the time and my wife can be at home to look after the kids.The problem I have is that there is always something to worry about .If there is cash flow problem ,i worry about it .If theres plenty of cash in the bank I'll worry about what might happen in 6 months.If everything is going well , I will actively look for a fault to worry about , to the point of nearly creating a problem.

For some reason I don't worry about home life but I constantly worry about work outside work hours.Most nights I will wake up 2 or 3 times and my immediate thought will be about work , be it money ,a job or a customer.I can't switch off and forget about work .

Its getting to a stage where I can't eat,rest or sleep because Im worrying about something a customer has said or if a customer will pay on time.I seem to have my phone in my hand all the time waiting for an email to come through.Even when I know logically there is no problem I will still doubt myself and be panicking about what is going to happen next..

Anyone have any advice ...

orthsquel

If you are worrying when there is nothing to worry about... then it is probably best to have a talk with your GP. Maybe you are feeling the strain and pressure of your business if you are taking on all the stresses of the business by yourself..... have you a manager to look after things and do some of the worrying for you? Could you afford to take on a manager? If you already have a manager running the business are you letting them actually take the responsibilities due to them?

I think you'll have to be careful, you could push yourself into burning yourself out with worrying so much about everything, even when there is nothing to worry about, and should get onto your GP asap and tell them what you are experiencing.

Rubberchikken

if you're dealing with the business side by yourself, then maybe you need some support.
talking to your gp is a good first step. also sharing your worries with your wife would help. she may have already noticed your worries/waking at night, and may be worrying herself.

a problem shared etc.
it sounds like you have a good business and that's great but your health, physical and mental, is vitally important, and deserves to be looked after.
take care

Wompa1

I'm in a similar situation re:stress and anxiety about work. I'm making a get out plan. I don't think my attitude towards my work is going to change so I'll have to change the work.

LegacyUser

Hi op,

A while ago I caught myself thinking how happy I was and realized I instantly tried to think about finding something to be unhappy about. I analyses my thoughts and I discovered I fear something bad will happen if I am too happy. I know with me this stems from childhood and my conditioning. Its a way for me to feel I have some control, so nothing or no one else can take my happiness away I think. Maybe this doesn`t relate to you but just in case this might help you it was worth posting.