Someone saying i raped her?

LegacyUser

I dont have much sexual experience about 2 or 3 years ago i went home with a girl who was drink she seen me chatting to her ex and his new girlfriend and came over and flung herself at me we went back to mines but we didnt do anything.. Now i think she is telling people i raped her.. What should i do?

Dixie Chick

Go to the guards, or a solicitor

LegacyUser

Ffdsghuiuuytfcghhunnbc wrote: »

Now i think she is telling people i raped her.. What should i do?

Well first thing is find out if she is or isn't accusing you of rape. A solicitor is the next step but only when you are sure she has actually said this.

Don't go back to this person. Don't have any more contact. Go straight to a solicitor and ask them first. Get their advice before doing anything else.

LegacyUser

I didnt hear at the time its only now am hearing it..Her exbiyfriend was there and he thought she was doing it to make him jealous . Recently i had to work along side her.. She still speaks to me but i ignore her. In fact i had to work in her house but i didnt want she even wanted me to. I havent heatd dotect its all hinted at.. Im friends with her brother and my friends sister is a friens of hers


I think she is sayong she woke up mines with no idea how she got there


At the time i was talking to another girl and she just grabbed me the other was her boyfriends new girlfriend

Exclamation Marc

Write down as much information as you can remember, with as much detail as possible. Read it back to yourself a few times and try to ensure you're being as complete as possible or haven't missed any information with everything relevant from that night up until this rumours you are hearing. Take your time with it and just ensure you are being as detailed as possible.

And then head to the Gardaí or a solicitor with your full account.

OneOfThem

You only say you think she is telling people that. So you're not sure? Why do you think that she is telling people that? Has someone told you she told them that?

Penny Tration

If she is definitely telling people this, go to a solicitor immediately

Typer Monkey

Did you post about this issue before OP? I remember a very similar thread earlier this year/last year. If you did and it's still bothering you, you should probably do something about it at this stage. There's no point going to the gardai, believe me if she had made a criminal complaint of rape you would've been contacted by now. You can't complain to the Gaurds about someone spreading gossip that you raped her. That's a civil matter (slander). You'll have to go to a solicitor and have them write her a letter telling her to desist.

If you don't know for sure that she's telling people this then I suggest you put it behind you once and for all.

Penny Tration

Ggyuggfsssfghh wrote: »

I didnt hear at the time its only now am hearing it..Her exbiyfriend was there and he thought she was doing it to make him jealous . Recently i had to work along side her.. She still speaks to me but i ignore her. In fact i had to work in her house but i didnt want she even wanted me to. I havent heatd dotect its all hinted at.. Im friends with her brother and my friends sister is a friens of hers


I think she is sayong she woke up mines with no idea how she got there


At the time i was talking to another girl and she just grabbed me the other was her boyfriends new girlfriend

Hmm. You posted about this last year, right? And wasn't it that the girl didn't say you raped her? That she said she woke up in your house and had been so drunk that she didn't know how she got there?

If that's the case - she hasn't accused you of rape. She's implied that something happened, but made no accusations.

And hasn't she stopped saying anything about it?

I think, if I'm right about you posting this before,that you need to let it go now.

LegacyUser

According to my friend who seem it.. It was almost like she raped me. Maybe she couldnt remember any of it.. I have heard side comments from friends who presumably she has told. We were talking about her and he fell asleep and then woke and said are you trying to rape me? At the time we never slept toghether but i pretended we did. Stupid i know. No one has told me directly. I had tp work along side recently and she was pleasant enough she wanted me at hers but i didnt turn up. When ever i see her she speaks to me but i blank her. If she really believed what she is saying is true surely she would be ignoring me?

I really did like her at the time so is it my fault for not speaking up and telling her what happened?

I didnt know all this stuff was being said until recently.

LegacyUser

Yes i posted it before but i didnt thonk she was saying i raped her.

LegacyUser

Ggyuggfsssfghh wrote: »

I think she is sayong she woke up mines with no idea how she got there

OP there's a lot of 'I think' in your posts. Do you actually know she's accused you of something? Has she actually told people you of raped her or just told people she woke up at yours and people have inferred something inappropriate happened?

Penny Tration

Ffghjkiytrsdc wrote: »

Yes i posted it before but i didnt thonk she was saying i raped her.

But from what you've said, she HASN'T said you raped her!

She has no memory of the night, and you decided to tell people ye had sex. If someone is so drunk that they can't even remember how they got to your house, then there's a huge chance they are legally incapable of giving consent to sex.

So the fact that she was so drunk she has no memory, combined with you telling people you slept with her, would very naturally lead to her thinking you took advantage.

You need to move on from this tbh. You're just assuming from third hand hearsay that she said you might have raped her. You've got no proof and tbh nothing you've indicated says anything more than she IMPLIED something happened.

Time to drop it and move on tbh.

LegacyUser

I didnt say we had sex i just didnt deny it.. Afterwards i got a few comments for not having sex with her. Yes people have commented about.. There is a rapist in town and someone said something about him being a friend of mine.

I got drunk and messagd her afterwards on facebook which didnt help i suppose

When she came back to mines her ex and his nrw girlfriend were texting me because they wete wondering what the story was and i got drunk and told her but she thought they were saying things about her which they werent which made it even worse i suppose. I had met her on a date the week before and messed up the date so she went home with someone else. Then she texted her ex and told him.. So he thought she was going home with me to make him jealous

Ok all i can do is ask my friend to see what he says i suppose

K shouldn taken her home drunk but i was just shocked at the way she did it.

Rubberchikken

for your sake, can you stay away from these people. they don't sound like people that are of any benefit to anyone so being in their company, working in their house, even listening to them is a receipe for disaster.
if you find that you're rehashing this in your head, would you be able to talk to your gp?

alcohol plus people like this who could get you into serious trouble are not worth it. take care