Came across girl I was with on tinder

micar

Was with this girl 2 years ago at a stag in westport.....only kissed.

She was there on a hen. All I knew is that she lived in the West while I live in dublin.

Anyway....on tinder earlier and I came across her. So, she's single. She's a pretty unusual name and I was able to find her on Facebook.

I'm half tempted to message her on Facebook.

Good idea or bad idea???? I know it might be a bit creepy.

Deminiman

Go for it! No point in over-thinking these things. Message her up...

eeguy

Nothing to lose.

At worst a girl you only met once will think you're a creep.

At best it could change your life!

holystungun9

Do it.

aaakev

Go for it man, nothing to loose!

Kmc1602

Go for it!! Let us know how you get on, best of luck!

Witchie

Speaking as a girl I know I would be flattered even if I was creeped out so I would say go for it and if she had liked you she may have been looking for you too and will be happy to hear from you, if she didn't like you she will probably just let you know she is not interested or not accept the friend request.

So either way do it coz as someone said the worst that can happen is she can say no and the best might be that you find someone you really connect with and want to be with.

Leogirl

Go for it. I'd be very flattered if someone did it even if I wasn't interested. Worst that can happen is she ignores you (not a nice person then) or politely tells you she's not interested.

Pawwed Rig

Nothing to lose. It is no brainer.

maydream

Go for it!!

whereto now

Go for it, what's the worst that can happen.....

Liam McPoyle

Am I the only one that thinks its a bit weird to message her on Facebook?

You are both using Tinder, match with her on that and if she matches you then you can bring up about the night you kissed, that is the point of Tinder, no?

Just cos you kissed on a drunken night out 2 years ago doesnt mean anything imo.

beertons

Is she hot?

micar

Business Cat wrote: »

Just cos you kissed on a drunken night out 2 years ago doesnt mean anything imo.

She wasn't drinking and I don't drink that much. It was very much a sober kiss.

beertons wrote: »

Is she hot?

Very cute!!!

aunt aggie

Business Cat wrote: »

Am I the only one that thinks its a bit weird to message her on Facebook?

You are both using Tinder, match with her on that and if she matches you then you can bring up about the night you kissed, that is the point of Tinder, no?

Just cos you kissed on a drunken night out 2 years ago doesnt mean anything imo.

Have we gotten to the stage where tinder is the new way of communicating with people we fancy? Really messaging on fb is okay, and doesn't leave as much to chance. I would be more likely to respond to fb comment from a guy that a msg from a match on tinder, but that's just me.

In fact I have received fb msgs from a random guy I met on a night out. It didn't lead to anything but it wasn't creepy!! Good Luck

Easy Rod

Business Cat wrote: »

Am I the only one that thinks its a bit weird to message her on Facebook?

You are both using Tinder, match with her on that and if she matches you then you can bring up about the night you kissed, that is the point of Tinder, no?

Just cos you kissed on a drunken night out 2 years ago doesnt mean anything imo.

I wouldn't leave it to that if I was him. She might not use tinder often, might not come across him for weeks, her friend could get her phone and swipe no etc. or she could go on a few dates with another guy she matches with and the op was too slow.

I say go for it.

beertons

Communicate any/every way you can so.

Sound Bite

If she's interested, she won't care how you contact her & will just be happy you did! Go for it.

Liam McPoyle

aunt aggie wrote: »

Have we gotten to the stage where tinder is the new way of communicating with people we fancy? Really messaging on fb is okay, and doesn't leave as much to chance. I would be more likely to respond to fb comment from a guy that a msg from a match on tinder, but that's just me.

In fact I have received fb msgs from a random guy I met on a night out. It didn't lead to anything but it wasn't creepy!! Good Luck

She is using an online dating app.

He is using an online dating app.

Why wouldn't first contact be through that medium??

He met her once, two years ago.

He is going to message her out of the blue, after somehow finding her on Facebook and say what?

"Oh hi, I was just thinking about you, after 2 years"



By messaging/matching with her on tinder he has an indicator if she would be in anyway interested.

By messaging her randomly on Facebook imo is a bit weird/creepy.

siblers

I agree with everything Business Cat has said, if she's interested she will match with you on Tinder and you can talk away then, if I got a message off a girl I kissed on a night out 2 years ago i'd find it slightly odd.

keane2097

The whole point of Tinder is to take the confusion out of these situations. If there is a mutual attraction the phone swooshes you a message to let you know.

If you match on Tinder, away ye go - if not, she swiped left and doesn't remember you or doesn't fancy you. Either way the FB message is rendered pointless.

aunt aggie

I think it is a case from the comments about that some people take tinder more seriously than others, and there is nothing wrong with that.

But as someone who doesn't take it that seriously, I would be more likely to respond to a direct mail especially if I had already met the person. People always have differing views on how to approach people and it's just what you feel most comfortable with.

Any update OP?

Dial Hard

aunt aggie wrote: »

Really messaging on fb is okay, and doesn't leave as much to chance.

It does if she doesn't have the FB messenger app installed - his message will just go straight into her "Other" folder, likely never even to be seen.

Use Tinder, OP. That's exactly what it's for.

wakka12

Business Cat wrote: »

Am I the only one that thinks its a bit weird to message her on Facebook?

You are both using Tinder, match with her on that and if she matches you then you can bring up about the night you kissed, that is the point of Tinder, no?

Just cos you kissed on a drunken night out 2 years ago doesnt mean anything imo.

I think it at least means something, actually

keane2097

aunt aggie wrote: »

I think it is a case from the comments about that some people take tinder more seriously than others, and there is nothing wrong with that.

But as someone who doesn't take it that seriously, I would be more likely to respond to a direct mail especially if I had already met the person. People always have differing views on how to approach people and it's just what you feel most comfortable with.

Any update OP?

I don't follow you to be honest.

If this girl has any sort of attraction for the lad, or interest in him, she will swipe right on Tinder.

The only reason he would need to go to her Facebook is if she has shown an explicit lack of interest in him by not matching with him on Tinder.

josephryan1989

micar wrote: »

Was with this girl 2 years ago at a stag in westport.....only kissed.

She was there on a hen. All I knew is that she lived in the West while I live in dublin.

Anyway....on tinder earlier and I came across her. So, she's single. She's a pretty unusual name and I was able to find her on Facebook.

I'm half tempted to message her on Facebook.

Good idea or bad idea???? I know it might be a bit creepy.

Why or how would it possibly be creepy? You like the girl so let her know and she will either want to get together or not. Simple.

NeverWaining

Why not do both? Swipe her and leave a message.


Hey [insert name here],

It's not every day I recognise a face on Tinder! Thought it might be more appropriate to say hi.
[insert charming, funny message here]



She's either going to be interested or not. I think you and others are overthinking it. Just do it.

ruskin

I came across a girl I met on tinder- she loved it.

Kevhog1988

NeverWaining wrote: »

Why not do both? Swipe her and leave a message.


Hey [insert name here],

It's not every day I recognise a face on Tinder! Thought it might be more appropriate to say hi.
[insert charming, funny message here]



She's either going to be interested or not. I think you and others are overthinking it. Just do it.

this is what you need to do!!

MillField

SNIP

thejaguar

Just do something and let us all know - the anticipation is killing me....

Wibbs

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