Career change disaster

LegacyUser

A few months ago I did a career change and took a new job with good pay but its been a complete disaster. I hate the job,company and the boss. My issue really is that I have not had the courage to quit yet and made some really bad decisions to work in this new job.
For example the work location was so far from home I had to move location. In order to move location I had to use up the last few grand I had in savings. Now i am stuck in a new location which i don't like at all.
From the day I did the interview I knew there was something wrong with the place/boss but the good paycheck hindered my views/common sense.
I am wondering has anyone been in a similar situation before. I feel like a right tit for just not quitting the first week and moving home but I guess in my 10 years working since I left education I never quit a job before.
My health has been effected by this job. Haven't slept properly in a month. black circles under my eyes, gained weight, in bad form.
I suspect if I try to quit now the boss is going to try and pull some stunt because when I joined a woman was leaving and trained me up. The company will be in a bad position due to me leaving. I haven't signed a contract yet so I think I could make a clean break.
The last thing that has me worried is if i quit ill get no dole and i don't have much in the bank.
My home family hopefully would help me out but it would be the embarrassment really, They told everyone how great I am working with company x in location x.

westernlass

Two things. Firstly it takes six months to settled into any new job. Is there any hope this will get better?

Secondly if not quitting is your only option. If you are going to find an alternative job you need to start looking and then you'll have options. Getting a job means quitting will be easier and you have a plan. You also won't have to rely on others as you'll have an income.

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Dee01

I could have written your post 10 years ago. I was in a job that was fine with a lowish wage that was topped up with bonuses each month. I was offered a job in a similar role, with the potential of promotion and a nice10k pay rise. despite a massive commute and me not feeling wonderful about the interview, I took the job without hesitation.

I think it took me a week to realise a lot of the others on the team didn't want me there. My new supervisor took an instant dislike to me and she was extremely close with my new manager.

I was isolated immediately... Excluded from tea runs, lunches, general chit chat. Supervisor bad mouthed me to manager and anyone else that would listen which was just awful to listen to (de wasn't shy about doing it in front of me). I was expected to just know what to do seeing as I came from a similar background despite new systems and different areas.

I felt ridiculous for leaving my last job, but felt trapped there a like I couldn't 'fail'. I decided to give it a couple of months, thinking surely it would get better. It didn't and I ended up in an awful state.... Sick, down, upset all the time... I ended up leaving (mutually to be honest) 3 months in. I had never not gotten on with people and it was a horrible time.

I decided to take a couple of weeks off (6/8) before starting to look for anything else. I'd decided to use travelling as the reason for the gap in my CV.

Although I was terribly upset and my confidence took a terrible blow, I got through it. I got another job fairly easy and it went really well.

While I agree with the above poster that you need to give it time (I recently changed job again and it took a good 7/8 months for me to settle in) if it is just not possible and is not a healthy situation to be in, I would cut your losses and get something else. The job market is opening back up again, so you will get somethg. Good luck op.

LegacyUser

Thanks for the advice guys. Your situation sounds similar alright Dee01. I made a few phone calls today. I explained my situation to my family and they are sound with me moving back home till i get sorted. I have decided keep working till the end of this month (monthly paycheck) just to see if things improve then ill make my next move.

Jotunheim

saragh_123 wrote: »

I suspect if I try to quit now the boss is going to try and pull some stunt .

Such as....? They can't make you stay and it's not your problem if the company has to find someone else. Your ultimate responsibility is to yourself, not them.


From where you are now, I'd suggest you save for a few months while jobhunting, then hit the road when you're in a position to and don't worry about the company you're leaving, 'cos they won't be worried about you.

InPsyDer

Like Dee01 I had a very similar experience. Job was great on paper but by the end of my very first day I knew I'd made a huge mistake. End of week 2 saw me teary and utterly miserable, having mini panic attacks throughout the day from the strain. I felt trapped as there was a huge amount of knowledge in the role that any replacement would need me to hand over to them, so I couldnt just walk. I did decide to leave as the stress was wrecking my mental health but I gave a full month's notice so they could get someone else in and trained. I felt less like I was burning bridges then. It was a huge lesson to learn. If that happened again now I'd have just quit that first day and let them give the role to whomever their second choice had been at interviews. It's very tough all round figuring out what to do though. Put your health and sanity first OP, it's never great realising that things aren't going to go the way you hoped with a job, but life is too short to let things like that drag on. Good luck with your next endeavour :-)