The compliment sandwich

guylikeme

You know that review thing you get sometimes with work etc? Where it goes...

Nice Thing
Bad Thing
Nice Thing

But the bad thing is basically the part they really want to express, sandwiched in between niceness. I guess women do it to each other too (and spot it quicker of each other too).

Anyways, i detect it alot when i see it and feel the urge to interrupt and say "get to the point" or similar but resist it.

Valetta

Does it have cheese?

conorh91

I don't think the compliment sandwich survived the Celtic Tiger. It's been replaced by the recession rice-cake:

"Do your job properly or I'll make you redundant"

NachoBusiness

Great idea for a thread.

You didn't give much information with regards to the type of 'bad thing' you are referring to. Any examples?

Love the username by the way.

Buona Fortuna

In my last company it was called a $hit sandwich

"Nice job on the blah"
"Everyone is taking a pay cut" Except the big knobs of course.
"How's the family"

The_Valeyard

No one has mentioned the crust?

Is it security outside to escort you out? Garden leave? finish early on a Friday or company drinks away.

RomanKnows

"Nice shirt, where did you get it?"

"Your alcoholism, unrelenting negativity and contempt for everyone is destroying office morale".

"See Shane Lowry win the golf at the weekend? Couldn't have happened to a nicer guy".

Menas

RomanKnows wrote: »

"Nice shirt, where did you get it?"

"Your alcoholism, unrelenting negativity and contempt for everyone is destroying office morale".

"See Shane Lowry win the golf at the weekend? Couldn't have happened to a nicer guy".

Great post Roman.
Tosser.
Keep up the good work!

Boring username

"Hi Jane, well done on bringing that issue to HR so early on, you back stabbing, arse kissing, snitching cnut. Love your shoes, by the way".










Damn, I should have started this years ago!

Seridisand

I was really hoping this was about a new line of talking sandwiches

*Takes a bite
Sandwich: "Great Job"

somesoldiers

Our management trainer recently said that the sandwich approach didn't work because people just focused on the negative no matter how padded.

Actually I can't remember what he said to do instead, what a waste of 2 half days that was....

Crooked Jack

I never understood the name "compliment" sandwich. Surely a sandwich is named after the filling, otherwise all sandwiches would just be called bread sandwiches. The criticism seems to be the filling in this particular scenario so shouldnt it be called that, a criticism sandwich (shit sandwich as someone mentioned).
An Improve Your Role roll.
Or a Pity Pitta.
A Tardiness Toastie.
A buck up baguette
A PAINini

pickarooney

That's a great point, Menas
The first one you've ever had
Now my haiku's done

Buona Fortuna

somesoldiers wrote: »

Our management trainer recently said that the sandwich approach didn't work because people just focused on the negative no matter how padded.

Actually I can't remember what he said to do instead, what a waste of 2 half days that was....

They are total snake-oil salesmen - but something it took me too long to realise "What a fcukin, easy, great way to make a living"

conorh91

somesoldiers wrote: »

Our management trainer recently said that the sandwich approach didn't work because people just focused on the negative no matter how padded.

Indeed, and rightly so.

What's the point in explaining your grievance if they walk away thinking it was a compliment? Or with a mixed message?

A legitimate criticism should be direct and succinct. The only time the compliment sandwich seems useful is where a person is unusually frail and sensitive.

This thread has made me actually LOL
shower of ****
but it has - seriously. Good job.