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Organising a burial

  • 05-08-2015 3:44pm
    #1
    hairyslug
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,596 ✭✭✭


    Hi, there is nowhere really suitable to ask this apart from here.

    I am organising my mother's burial, she was cremated in April and I have kept her on the kitchen table since then, it's amazing the odd looks i get when I tell people that but I find it the best place for her.

    I've been onto the graveyard and they have been more than helpful but there is one question that I think may come down more to etiquette than anything else. Do I get a priest to say a few words or do I leave it up to those that will be there. It will only be a small gathering, with only one of those being anyway religious. Cheers


Comments

  • #2
    LynnGrace
    Closed Accounts Posts: 7,347 ✭✭✭LynnGrace


    Hi hairyslug
    Hope you are doing okay.
    I don't know the etiquette, but my gut feeling would be to go with what you think / know your mum would have liked.
    If she was religious, for example, then, it might be nice to have a religious aspect to this, either a priest in attendance, or just someone in the group to say a few prayers.
    I would say an undertaker or priest, if you gave them a call, would guide you, on the etiquette, as they will more than likely have dealt with this / have been asked before.

    All the best, take care.


  • #3
    hairyslug
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,596 ✭✭✭hairyslug


    Cheers, am off to the undertakers today for something so will ask them then


  • #4
    John Mason
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    We didn't have a priest when we buried ashes. we read poems, or told a story about the person.

    It was nice and personal exactly what he would have wanted


  • #5
    hairyslug
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,596 ✭✭✭hairyslug


    John Mason wrote: »
    We didn't have a priest when we buried ashes. we read poems, or told a story about the person.

    It was nice and personal exactly what he would have wanted

    Cheers, that's what we have decided on


  • #6
    Lux23
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 7,134 ✭✭✭Lux23


    My dad was cremated in December and we interred his ashes in a grave with his parents in March, he was sitting beside the telly for weeks! My Mum asked the church admin and they gave us permission to have the grave dug up so we hired a company to do that for us. On the day we just brought down the urn and put him in there, we didn't ask for a priest as none of us are that religious.


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