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Feeling Frustrated

  • 30-07-2015 12:28PM
    #1
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 39


    This may be a strange one but .. here goes...

    Myself and my husband have been TTC for a number of months. No luck yet.
    I've been for one set of blood work - will need another set on next menstruation (fingers crossed I miss it for obvious reasons). I am due AF today - no sign yet.

    We would both love to be parents, and he is absolutely convinced it will only be a matter of time before I fall pregnant. I am slightly more worried hence why I went for bloods. Which were suggestive of PCOS but the GP admitted they were taken at the wrong time in my cycle, so I am trying not to worry.

    My predicament is (despite fertility concerns) that I am in a job I hate. Truly hate.
    I am staying because if I leave for somewhere else I know I would have to work up a period of time before receiving maternity. I am a hard worker - I am not sucking maternity out of my employer and have been here a good number of years and have taken one sick day.

    I won't put off being a parent for anything, but as I have no one to talk to about this (except my husband) I guess I'm just looking for words of comfort, or advice even. I feel very alone at the moment.

    I'm stuck in my job until I fall pregnant, but I don't know how long it will be. And I worry that because I stress about it - it won't happen.. and so I'll be stuck in this job.


Comments

  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 792 ✭✭✭hadook


    My last 3 employers have had no restrictions on how long you have to work there to take the full maternity leave as offered in each company. Two are American multinationals and one a small Irish company so it's not just big corp offering it either.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 39 taylorsterling


    Thanks for your reply. I do look at jobs online, have yet to see something or haven't had luck with previous applications in the past. I suppose my biggest concern is that the stress of the situation will prevent a pregnancy.

    I always read - stress is a killer for conception. And then also - no one can truly guarantee when I'll get pregnant. So I could be stuck here for years, feeling sad about not conceiving and sad to be somewhere I really don't want to be!


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 189 ✭✭taxus_baccata


    There is a book called "taking charge of your fertility" by toni weischler (or something like that!) it's a wonderful resource and may be very helpful in ttc. Doing a job you hate is freaking soul destroying, I've been there!


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 39 taylorsterling


    Thanks for the post! Yes, it's a real pain. My job itself is not stressful - the people I work with are very, very stressful. But that can happen anywhere really.

    I must buy that book!! I have never been pregnant before, and I haven't told anyone myself and himself are trying. Just because I want to keep it private. As a result, I have no one to talk about this with.

    My mam really struggled with conception, and I am consumed with worry it will take years - or worse still, never happen! Meanwhile girls I know get pregnant without even wanting too!!!!

    I'm nearing the end of my two week wait, and really feeling the frustration and anxiety!


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