Feeling Frustrated

taylorsterling

This may be a strange one but .. here goes...

Myself and my husband have been TTC for a number of months. No luck yet.
I've been for one set of blood work - will need another set on next menstruation (fingers crossed I miss it for obvious reasons). I am due AF today - no sign yet.

We would both love to be parents, and he is absolutely convinced it will only be a matter of time before I fall pregnant. I am slightly more worried hence why I went for bloods. Which were suggestive of PCOS but the GP admitted they were taken at the wrong time in my cycle, so I am trying not to worry.

My predicament is (despite fertility concerns) that I am in a job I hate. Truly hate.
I am staying because if I leave for somewhere else I know I would have to work up a period of time before receiving maternity. I am a hard worker - I am not sucking maternity out of my employer and have been here a good number of years and have taken one sick day.

I won't put off being a parent for anything, but as I have no one to talk to about this (except my husband) I guess I'm just looking for words of comfort, or advice even. I feel very alone at the moment.

I'm stuck in my job until I fall pregnant, but I don't know how long it will be. And I worry that because I stress about it - it won't happen.. and so I'll be stuck in this job.

hadook

My last 3 employers have had no restrictions on how long you have to work there to take the full maternity leave as offered in each company. Two are American multinationals and one a small Irish company so it's not just big corp offering it either.

taylorsterling

Thanks for your reply. I do look at jobs online, have yet to see something or haven't had luck with previous applications in the past. I suppose my biggest concern is that the stress of the situation will prevent a pregnancy.

I always read - stress is a killer for conception. And then also - no one can truly guarantee when I'll get pregnant. So I could be stuck here for years, feeling sad about not conceiving and sad to be somewhere I really don't want to be!

taxus_baccata

There is a book called "taking charge of your fertility" by toni weischler (or something like that!) it's a wonderful resource and may be very helpful in ttc. Doing a job you hate is freaking soul destroying, I've been there!

taylorsterling

Thanks for the post! Yes, it's a real pain. My job itself is not stressful - the people I work with are very, very stressful. But that can happen anywhere really.

I must buy that book!! I have never been pregnant before, and I haven't told anyone myself and himself are trying. Just because I want to keep it private. As a result, I have no one to talk about this with.

My mam really struggled with conception, and I am consumed with worry it will take years - or worse still, never happen! Meanwhile girls I know get pregnant without even wanting too!!!!

I'm nearing the end of my two week wait, and really feeling the frustration and anxiety!