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  • 25-07-2015 6:46pm
    #1
    feelingweird
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 20 ✭


    Hey all, am new on this site but just wanted some advice if anyone could help :) I have a friend of about 10 years, not the closest of friends ever but have kissed a few times over the years. During these 10 years he has dated a friend who I was very close with at the time but we aren't as close now & they are no longer in contact. We have had a few meetings since ;) over the last 2 years but although I am no longer close with the girl he dated anymore I felt bad about it.
    Myself and man in question have had a few nights where we have contacted each other under the influence but nothing ever transpired from it.
    He told me he did like me two or three times when we have had a few drinks together but that was a while back now. I don't really see him often as he lives almost an hour away from me and hes not able to drive.
    He's always been very helpful when I need something, he's a plumber so if I ever need anything he has always helped me no problem. I have began to think about him a lot more recently and I am unsure if I should just sit back and see does anything ever transpire from it, or bite the bullet, contact him and see does he want to meet up or something. Is he still a no-go as he dated an old friend a few years ago?
    Anyway, please help me or let me know if I am a horrible person altogether :D Thanks.


Comments

  • #2
    OneOfThem
    Closed Accounts Posts: 667 ✭✭✭OneOfThem


    Yes. Absolutely pursue it. Maybe it'll all come to nothing. Maybe this will be the greatest love story the world has ever known. But not finding that out because a friend once was involved with them? Madness. People don't get to mark someone else as theirs and no one else's but they don't want them. If they've a problem with it then they are what's technically known as a 'selfish self involved cvnt' (that needlessly harsh, a gross over exaggeration, and not to be taken seriously). No of course you're not a horrible person. If they are actually a friend they will wish you well and want you to be happy.

    Go for it.


  • #3
    beks101
    Closed Accounts Posts: 3,802 ✭✭✭beks101


    You're no longer close with his ex, so I don't see what the big deal is.
    Don't get into another texting see-saw with him though. Just call him and tell him you'll be in his neck of the woods on X date and would like to see him.


  • #4
    Taltos
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 20,830 ✭✭✭✭Taltos


    Mod Note:
    Hi Miname

    please take 5 minutes to read our charter. Off topic posts, or posts that don't offer constructive advice in a civil fashion are no longer acceptable in any fashion in PI. They can and do result in moderator action. Due to the nature of the issues here this is an actively moderated forum.


  • #5
    CaraMay
    Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 4,652 ✭✭✭CaraMay


    Op I definitely think you should go for it if you are satisfied it work on a practical level? If he doesn't drive would you have to do all the traveling to see him? Is there somewhere to stay? Would either of you ever be able / willing to move to where the other lives.

    I know you are not even dating but IMHO there is no point starting something which cannot work logistically


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