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Is this a creepy way to try and start a relationship?

  • 11-07-2015 11:18AM
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,012 ✭✭✭✭


    I'm 17. I was on a school trip to France in March. One night, we were in our hotel rooms. At around 1am some night, we were just discussing girls on the trip we like, it being Paris and all. I said I had my eye on X. Really nice girl. The guy I was sharing the room with knew her hotel room, dialled it on the room phone and handed it to me. “I’ve rang her…say something”

    I talk rubbish about the trip and weather and boring stuff. Say bye after about 5 minutes.

    She asked me the morning after, and on several occasions since then, what I meant by ringing her up at 1am to have a conversation with her. She’s not annoyed about it, just genuinely curious. I keep dodging the question making light of the event.

    We still talk to each other, I'd just like to go a step further.

    Should I message her and tell her something along the lines of: “Hey X, the reason I rang you up that night in France was because I wanted an excuse to talk to you” and go from there?

    Would something like that get the wheels in motion for a relationship? Or would it creep her out completely? Is there a better way of going about things?

    Any and all advice appreciated.


Comments

  • #2
    Mr. Incognito
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 9,798 ✭✭✭Mr. Incognito


    Just tell her the truth. I was telling my mate i liked you and he rang you and handed me the phone. I am glad he did.

    Not creepy. Just true.


  • #3
    tigger123
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 4,574 ✭✭✭tigger123


    Its not creepy at all, go for it dude!


  • #4
    tigger123
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 4,574 ✭✭✭tigger123


    Also, if she's asking you about it she may be interested in you. If she wasn't she wouldn't bother pursuing the issue with you.


  • #5
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,012 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    Would it be a bad idea to tell her over facebook messenger? I probably won't see her in person until school starts in September. Would it be better to tell her in person so I'm guaranteed some sort of response, rather than "Seen 16:04"?


  • #6
    tigger123
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 4,574 ✭✭✭tigger123


    Oright wrote: »
    Would it be a bad idea to tell her over facebook messenger? I probably won't see her in person until school starts in September. Would it be better to tell her in person so I'm guaranteed some sort of response, rather than "Seen 16:04"?

    If it were me use ask to meet her for a coffee and take it from there, I wouldn't be getting too heavy over FB messenger. Is there anyway to meet her over the summer?


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  • #7
    [Deleted User]
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    OP - she's obviously interested in you too. If she's still talking to you, then it means that she didn't find it creepy. If she did, knowing teenage girls and how secondary schools are, you'd've heard it from someone else by now. Take that momentum and go with it - however you feel most comfortable, and yes, that means even over FB chat. Just say, "hey, want to meet up at some point?"


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