Nasty people at work

moon55

Hi there

I work in an office and today I over heard some nasty comments being made about me that I wasn't friendly I never say this or that I am not polite but that is not true if I ever have to ask these people for anything I always say please and thanks for doing it. One even said I was mad and that this situation was unacceptable. I don't know why they are saying these things. They were all just there saying these nasty horrible things about me.

I don't know what to do. I have spent half the evening crying about it and am very upset by it.

Advice would be good.

Thanks

FizzleSticks

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moon55

They all seemed to be giving out about me. I didnt do anything to them why they have to be like this I don't know. Why don't they just say it to my face if there is something wrong.

368100

There's a girl in our place, only one word for her and that's a b*tch.

Basically acts as superior to all her colleagues (even if this isn't the case) but what really makes me laugh is one minute she's sweeter than sweet and the next she'll be outwardly and unashamedly rude.

There's at least one in every workplace, I've just resigned myself to the idea that the likes of that are deeply unhappy people and its their issue not anybody else's.

I stand up to them alright but life is too short to let it get to you. Just spend 5 mins to pity them and then get on with your life.

moon55

but it is very hard to hear nasty stuff being said about oneself. I am just very sensitive I suppose I will just have to ignore it. Easier said then done though.

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retro:electro

Did they know you could hear them op? Could they perhaps have been talking about another person who shares your first name?

R.D. aka MR.D

Are you sure they were talking about you?

Are you friendly? Do you make the effort to talk to people? The words 'please' and 'thank you' don't always equal polite. You can say those words in a way that comes across as rude.

They shouldn't have been talking about this in the workplace. My advice is that if you hear them talking about you again to walk over to them and ask them a inconsequential question with a sickly sweet smile and they'll know they've been caught.

Rubberchikken

i'm sorry you heard that. it's horrible to hear anyone talking about you in that way.
the best thing to do is continue being the pleasant friendly person you seem to be and hold your head up and get on with life.

don't allow anyone's nasty comments to get you down.

jealousy is an awful thing and that type of nastyness can stem from it. take care

DoYouEvenLift

At least you can feel better about being more intelligent than them since they're obviously not very smart if they're gossiping about someone who is within earshot of them.


Honestly, you should've confronted them there and then but I guess speak to your manager about it if it's bothering you enough.

ihavenoname3

If I had to guess why they were saying such thing about you, I would be pretty sure its jealousy, I have seen it before many times, these people are not worth worrying about. just laugh at them and take no $hit from anyone in the work place.

bolopapa

I doubt they would be that dumb to gossip about you within ear shot. Probably not about.

alias06

If someone said something hurtful about you, and you are sure of what you heard, you should confront them. Do it calmly. Say ´Look I overheard you saying x and y about me yesterday. I don´t know where this is coming from and feel its very unfair. Unless you can back up what you were saying I feel you should apologise.´

Don´t let people bitch about you and get away with it. Confront. Be prepared they may totally deny. If they do at least you have made them aware that you heard them and that you feel its unacceptable.