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Thoughts about miscarriage

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  • 30-06-2015 7:10am
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    ponderousanon
    Registered Users Posts: 34 ✭


    I hoped to ask advice. Often when I am told about a person being pregnant, particularly early in to the pregnancy, I find myself having the thought that they could have a miscarriage. Is this normal?


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    Peregrinus
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    Yes, it is common for people to have such thoughts.


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    looksee
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    Is it normal to miscarry, or normal to have these thoughts? If there is going to be a miscarriage it is likely to be in the early months, one of the reasons why women used not say anything about pregnancy until after the 3rd month.


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    ponderousanon
    Registered Users Posts: 34 ✭ponderousanon


    Normal to have the thoughts. I always have it when I hear this good news and find it very strange that I would think this way.


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    looksee
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    Its a bit pessimistic I suppose, but really the outcome of pregnancy is not certain until it is fulfilled, and certainly not in the very early months. As I said, women used be much more cautious about announcing they were pregnant at least until the first 3 months were over, so maybe you have some sort of subconscious memory of an adult expressing this idea.


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    Peregrinus
    Registered Users Posts: 26,056 ✭✭✭✭Peregrinus


    looksee wrote: »
    Its a bit pessimistic I suppose, but really the outcome of pregnancy is not certain until it is fulfilled, and certainly not in the very early months. As I said, women used be much more cautious about announcing they were pregnant at least until the first 3 months were over . . .
    Used be? Many still are.

    About 15% of recognised pregnancies end in miscarriage, and two-thirds of these happen in the first trimester. What this comes down to is that one in ten women who know they are pregnant will lose the pregnancy in the first three months. This is not an unusual occurrence at all.

    People deal with this in various ways, including not really thinking about miscarriage unless and until they have to (because it happens, or seems to threaten imminently), or not really allowing themselves to think beyond the early pregnance to the point of live birth, in case that doesn't happen. Not telling people about the pregnancy in the first three months unless for some reason they need to know is a fairly common practice.


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    ponderousanon
    Registered Users Posts: 34 ✭ponderousanon


    Thanks everyone. I guess I know how common miscarriages can be but feel bad that my thoughts automatically goes to thinking such an awful thing


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