How much is too much?

LegacyUser

Started new relationship. Well its 3 months now.

In my last relationship was normal to have like sex 1 time or 2 times a week. Things are quite different in my new relationship. Basically I only see my girlfriend at weekends but last weekend we had sex about 10 times and she gave me oral three times, one time while we were out in the woods walking...

Is this normal or do I have nymphomaniac for a girlfriend?

OneOfThem

Ah normal is a relative term. All that matters is whatever works between people. In my previous relationship 20/30 times a week would have been normal, for us. We just both had very high sex drives and fancied the arse off each other.

Are you unhappy that she wants a lot of sex?

professore

As Mae West said "Too much of a good thing is wonderful". Enjoy it while it lasts, or marry her - that will turn the tap off pretty quickly !

Penny Tration

It's too much if one or both of you are unhappy with the frequency.

If you're enjoying it, happy days.

Colser

Unless you were doing it against your will I cant see what your problem is...Why are you questioning her sex drive if you were a willing partner?

LegacyUser

I suppose I came out of a long term relationship and had it in my mind that 1 or 2 times a week was OK...

I'm wondering if this is a tactic used at the beginning but then it will dry up?? She's setting the expectations high and I'm not sure she will be able to sustain long term...

ManOfMystery

how_much_is_too_much wrote: »

Started new relationship. Well its 3 months now.

In my last relationship was normal to have like sex 1 time or 2 times a week. Things are quite different in my new relationship. Basically I only see my girlfriend at weekends but last weekend we had sex about 10 times and she gave me oral three times, one time while we were out in the woods walking...

Is this normal or do I have nymphomaniac for a girlfriend?

There's no such thing as 'normal'. Everyone has different sex drives. Some people can go without for months, others can't go without even for hours.

There is, statistically speaking however, averages. There's plenty of research groups who will tell you the average couple has sex X/Y/Z times per week. Whether your figure is higher or lower than this shouldn't really matter - if you both want it, and you both enjoy it, then why not?

It annoys me that the OP is saying the sex they're having is too much, when others might not be having any .. *cough* :pac:

Nah, honestly, that sounds about right for a new relationship. Your gf sounds great!

Merkin

how_much_is_too_much wrote: »

I suppose I came out of a long term relationship and had it in my mind that 1 or 2 times a week was OK...

I'm wondering if this is a tactic used at the beginning but then it will dry up?? She's setting the expectations high and I'm not sure she will be able to sustain long term...

What on earth do you mean by a 'tactic?' Are you normally this suspicious? Don't you trust her? The amount of sex you are having is perfectly normal and I'm not sure why this would bother you?

kylith

It's also normal in a new relationship to have marathon, frequent sex sessions that naturally find a sustainable level as the relationship goes on. As long as you're not unhappy with the frequency why complain? If it turns into too much or too little down the line then you can talk about it then.

Chemical Byrne

Well at the outset of a relationship it's pretty normal for sex to be frequent. At long as ye are both happy with it why would there be a problem? Just enjoy.

But personally, I would find 10 times over 2 days to be a ridiculous level of sex. But each to their own.

Emme

Chemical Byrne wrote: »

Well at the outset of a relationship it's pretty normal for sex to be frequent. At long as ye are both happy with it why would there be a problem? Just enjoy.

But personally, I would find 10 times over 2 days to be a ridiculous level of sex. But each to their own.

Jealousy gets you nowhere

If they're both enjoying what they're doing the OP should go with the flow.

shalalala

I would echo the others. If you are both happy with it then great! I really don't get how it could be a tactic?! Usually it does settle down after about 6 months naturally but as long as it doesn't settle too low for you I really don't see a problem!

Ahhhhh the honeymoon period is great! Enjoy it

Keane2baMused

I'd hardly call it a tactic OP. It's pretty normal for there to be lots of sex in the 'honeymoon phase' and I think it's a little unfair to suggest its a game of sorts. It probably won't continue as often but then again she may have a very high sex drive - it does actually happen!!

MagicMarker

Sex 10 times but only oral 3 times?

Dump her.

MagicMarker

MagicMarker wrote: »

Sex 10 times but only oral 3 times?

Dump her.

In fairness, a blowjob in a bush is worth two romps in the sack.

skallywag

Merkin wrote: »

The amount of sex you are having is perfectly normal...

That's my day ruined :mad:

skallywag

skallywag wrote: »

That's my day ruined :mad:

Pft.

That's my life ruined :pac:

_Whimsical_

I think it's different for everyone and different for every relationship.
I wonder why you feel the post in the first place though. The fact that you have sounds like it's a bit outside of your own personal comfort zone or that alarm bells are ringing for you on some level,maybe you have an instinct that something is a bit off, if you do, listen to it. If it's not for you dial it down a bit and try to focus on other things a bit more like getting to know each other better. What's "normal" in a relationship really is whatever you're both comfortable with.

You may of course just be bragging though in which case, ignore the above!

Flippyfloppy

Has it always been at this frequency op, for the last three months? And if so, is it only beginning to bother you now?

LegacyUser

Flippyfloppy wrote: »

Has it always been at this frequency op, for the last three months? And if so, is it only beginning to bother you now?

It's always been fairly frequent. The first night we were together we did it three times which was great. I think she's making up for lost time, she told me she was unable to climax very often before but with me she's getting the spot hit more often than not now so probably sex is a better experience for her.