Dont know what to do

LegacyUser

I know this might sound obvious but there is a history between me and a male friend of mine. Firstly he has been very ill recently but is now well on the road to recovery. My issue is anytime lately that i have arranged to meet me, he hasnt turned up or even bothered to contact me and cancel. After the last incident I asked him could he explain to me what is going on, because i really don't understand. He has said he wants to be in a relantionship with me, but then goes and doesn't show up. Any advise please.

athtrasna

Forget about him and move on. Disrespect is never a good foundation for a relationship.

LegacyUser

I'm surmising here but your opening comment about there being a history between you and him suggests that things haven't been straightforward. Is there a history of one or both of you messing each other around here?

What he's doing now shows how little he thinks of you. This isn't the sort of thing friends do to each other, let alone possible romantic partners. He has done this to you a number of times which also shows that he knows what he can get away with. This is no basis for a healthy relationship. He's not a friend of yours either in my opinion. He's a messer.

Rubberchikken

can you talk to him again. i think if he's willing to give an explanation, he needs to give a better one than the one he's already told you. i think you deserve that much.
only after that can you decide whether it's worth keep this friendship going.

LegacyUser

Hi thanks for the advise. The next time im talking to him ill ask to explain to me why he has treated me that way, & just say to him im not happy with it, & see where it goes from there.