rsvp!

tony glenn

We have a few wedding invites that haven't rsvp'd by the requested date.
What's the etiquette regarding this? Is there a polite way to remind them that we need a yes or no.....our venue needs final numbers!

CBFi

Completely acceptable to text/call

lazeedaisy

Just give them a all or text as suggested, say you need numbers for caterers... Perfectly acceptable,

starface

Yep as said its completely acceptable to call or text. I found that most people completely forget and are mortified at themselves.

tony glenn

starface wrote: »

Yep as said its completely acceptable to call or text. I found that most people completely forget and are mortified at themselves.

Thanks. Good point, but a bit of an eye-opener when you think about it. You spend a long time planning the invite list, and a few forget about replying? Hmmmmm...

nosietoes

Oh I wouldn't take it personally. They could be quite excited/looking forward to it but just completely forgotten about the RSVP - put it behind something, kept forgetting to put it in their bag to get to a post box, thought that telling a family member they were looking forward to it was RSVP enough.

cossiem0d0

Before I started planning my own wedding, I was the WORST as rsvp'ing. I always figured that since we were chatting about the wedding, they'd obviously know I was coming and always, always forgot to rsvp. Now that I realise what a pain it is, I'll be rsvp'ing the second the thing comes through the post! Definitely don't take it personally and just give them a call.

shadowcat

cossiem0d0 wrote: »

Before I started planning my own wedding, I was the WORST as rsvp'ing. I always figured that since we were chatting about the wedding, they'd obviously know I was coming and always, always forgot to rsvp. Now that I realise what a pain it is, I'll be rsvp'ing the second the thing comes through the post! Definitely don't take it personally and just give them a call.

This +1

I'm getting married in October, and it's only now that we are getting the RSVP's back ourselves that I realized how bad I was at doing this myself before. I would try not to take it personally as it's very easy to put it on the mantelpiece / table etc and forget all about it. A quick text / call / email to double check would be fine to most people I would imagine. Those who are going will let you know miles in advance, and if you haven't had a reply, then chances are it's probably a no.

stargazer 68

Someone told me that when their daughter was getting married they had a few of his family that hadn't rsvp'd so she sent them all a text to say 'sorry you can't make the wedding but look forward to seeing you at the next family event'! They were soon quick to send the replies back lol

Not that I would suggest you try this! But a quick call or text is fine.

Kevhog1988

i usually only rsvp when i cant go.... i honestly thought that was how it works

Milly33

Oh no theemigrant!! No nooo... Sure people need numbers..

Sent a lot of ours out and still waiting on a lot of them to come back...

Malari

theemigrant wrote: »

i usually only rsvp when i cant go.... i honestly thought that was how it works

Why did you think there was a "yes" box to tick with food requirements/allergies? :pac:

Kevhog1988

Malari wrote: »

Why did you think there was a "yes" box to tick with food requirements/allergies? :pac:

Honestly, my cousin got married two weeks ago... I just presumed i was invited and turned up to find a seat at a table... I never actually received an invite lol

Arbiter of Good Taste

theemigrant wrote: »

Honestly, my cousin got married two weeks ago... I just presumed i was invited and turned up to find a seat at a table... I never actually received an invite lol

Were you actually invited, or was there just an extra seat because someone pulled out at the last minute?

Kevhog1988

Arbiter of Good Taste wrote: »

Were you actually invited, or was there just an extra seat because someone pulled out at the last minute?

I was invited, just never physically got an invite.