Be selfish and leave friend ?

LegacyUser

Myself and a friend rented a house together recently. Getting a house as a student is not easy, so we both said we'd get a job in the area over the summer and we'd be sound with paying for the house. We're both from the same part of the country.

He got a job at home there this past weekend, which means I'll be on my own during the summer in this house. He didn't apologise for taking the job at home when we said we'd work in the city together, so I'm a little annoyed at that.

I've just been offered a place on campus through disability, even though I was told a month ago I wouldn't be. It's round about the same money as the place we're renting, but I won't be paying for it over the summer. I've a job at home, not a big one only 10-15 hours a week but my parents are sound with me and I've next to no expenses during the summer.

I'm torn over whether or not I should try and get out of my lease somehow, and leaving my friend to find someone else to take the other room in the house. Our 2nd months rent is due Friday so I need to make a decision by then. I've never stayed on campus, and I've always really regretted it. I've moving to 1st year in a different course, and i sort of wasted 1st year in my previous course. After 2 years at college I have next to no new friends, and that's obviously my own fault, I'm a bit shy and introverted. I feel if I was to stay on campus and be in an apartment with 4/5 others I would be so much happier. I also don't want to abandon my friend for the year, but the whole reason I'd agreed to rent so early was because I thought we'd both be there over the summer. I'd hate to live on my own, I'd need to either get more work at home or get a new job in the city to be able to make the rent, whereas with campus I'm at home for the summer and can save a lot more money

CaraMay

Was he going to pay his share over the summer? How long is left on the lease?

Stavro Mueller

Have a chat with your friend now and tell him much what you've told us. Both your circumstances have changed since you first rented the house. What's the story with the rent by the way? Has he left you to pick up the tab for his half of the rent?

If getting a student house isn't easy, then he should have no trouble finding someone else to replace you. I think you need to tell him what you're doing as soon as possible though so he can make his own decisions.

LegacyUser

I get from your post that you both had agreed to stay in the house over the summer find jobs and pay the rent. However he's now got a job at home and is not staying there. So I don't understand why you are feeling guilty. He's kind of dropped you in at as well.
How long was the lease for? 9mths or 12mts? You probably need to need to let the landlord know that you have to move out and you both will likely lose your deposit.

strobe

"From the same part of the country" tells me you are from NotDublin and renting in Dublin. He'll have absolutely zero problem getting someone to take your room.

Have a talk with them, explain your dealy like you did here (minus the stuff about him taking a job at home obviously...), give them plenty of notice of your intentions, sell it as they'll be able to get a hot guy/girl in there, and you're scott free.

di11on

He has reneged on the deal. All bets are off. Deal no longer in effect.

Stavro Mueller

Another thing that you might consider: If the situation was the other way round and your friend got that offer, do you think he'd turn it down because of you? Going by what he just did to you, I think not. I think you should seize the opportunity of that on-campus accommodation with both hands and make no apologies for it. It's what you want, it suits you better and you'd be financially better off. Tell him now so he can decide if he wants to do.

LegacyUser

It might not be so simple as you both walking away. Whose name is on the lease? are you both on it? Or just one of you? How long was your lease for?

Dark Phoenix

suit yourself OP, your friend already has, he is not concerned about you when he makes his decisions