Educate myself on bullying tactics

Not going anonymous for this. I was wondering, and I hope this is an appropriate forum, is there any recommended reading on the tactics of bullying? I encountered quite a lot of it in school mainly from the teachers. Because they were incompetent the only way they could motivate me was to guilt trip me.

I wasn't even aware at the time I was being bullied. I'd like to educate on what constitutes bullying behaviour so that I may assert myself. Any sites that might have information on when you're being manipulated and how to deal with it? Because sadly it seems to be everywhere these days!

Thank you!

Neyite

While its not exactly bullying, I learned a lot about emotional abuse and manipulation from articles and books relating to domestic violence, but not an awful lot could apply to a professional setting.

Is it that you want to find ways to stand up to fellow adults - such as colleagues or bosses in a constructive way, or are you looking more to understand what occurred when you were in school? If its the former, maybe books relating to assertiveness might be more useful.

Rubberchikken

it is sad that there's still bullying no matter how educated we are.
if your dealing with it in the workplace, then assertiveness books would be helpful but you shouldn't have to put up with it and there are ways to deal with it.

i don't know if books would help if it's bullying that you experienced as a child. would talking to someone be any help?

take care

MagicMarker

Didn't you post about this before? I could be wrong of course but I recall a thread by someone who was consumed by the thoughts of them being "bullied" by teachers in school years ago, and they gave examples. I believe the consensus of the posters back then was that based on the examples provided the op was not bullied, and that they should seek help themselves with their obsession.

Again, could have been someone else.

blatantrereg

Unnecessary and excessive domination/intimidation, usually in a context where you have power over the other person.

A teacher who insults or ridicules a pupil is very likely to be bullying them I think. A teacher who criticises a pupil - even harshly - is probably just doing their job.

silverfeather

If in social situations avoid those people and cut them out. In systems or a job or school you must realize the difference between a firm figure of authority and someone who is abusing their power. That does not negate the effects it might have on you though and you should feel free to talk about it. Don't misplace loyalty or trust. But try and avoid those types of people altogether. You should not be 'less than' as a student or an employer. Clear established standards of treatment from both of you and trust etc.

You have to realize the difference between a firm teacher and a bully. Sometimes a boss is protecting themselves. Think of a teacher with a class full of students etc, some of them take the advantage. It's not an excuse to take it out on you though. But a certain kind firmness can be good in certain environments.

A good leader should never bully.

If it's socially or in relationships please just leave those people. It's not worth it. It's not you it's them.