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Don't think me and my girlfriend will get through

  • 20-05-2015 10:48pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    Hi All,

    Recently myself and my girlfriend having being going through a serious rough patch.

    Background:

    Together near 3 years.
    Don't live together but used to spend a lot of time before work got in the way etc.


    I love her to pieces but lately, I've found out she was lying about stuff, don't want to get into to much detail in case anybody recognizes it.
    Basically she lied massively when she was in my house so she could have a girls night.

    Before that I caught her flirting with another guy on FB. In Regards to this, I had a really bad feeling as she was on FB far more than usually. I did the worst thing ever when I was drunk and I checked, and I was right.

    I pulled her up on it apologized for checking etc. Since then I've been really struggling to trust her. She seems to have distant herself quite a bit and basically just feels like i'm being 'filled in' so when she finishes work on the way home I get a call etc etc.

    I'm really struggling here and don't know what to do. I want to get past it, we've a holiday booked in July and I keep trying to tell myself that she wouldn't be with me if she didn't want to be.

    But ever since that issue with FB she said I could check if it made me feel better. So when I did checked I realized a few conversations had been deleted when I said it to she said '' I never deleted them that's weird'' basically that ol excuse.

    Any thoughts on how to get past this?


Comments

  • #2
    silverbolt
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 362 ✭✭silverbolt


    you gut is telling you something isnt right.

    Listen to it.

    You violated her trust by checking messages, she is now worried about everything she does, so she deletes even innocent things which she thinks may offend which adds to a cycle and makes it worse.

    Its a path ive seen before.

    She may not be doing anything wrong, other hand she may be.

    Yo need to decide of you can look past it and move on.


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