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wedding ceremony help

  • 14-05-2015 7:04pm
    #1
    rover114
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2 ✭


    Hi

    i was wondering if somebody can help. i plan to get married next year. we are both Catholic but i am divorced. we are having trouble and are getting confused about our ceremony. we want it to be as normal a ceremony as possible for us and our families. We know we can have a civil ceremony at our venue but would love to have a church ceremony. i know i can not marry in a Catholic church but we have looked in to the chapel in Trinity and the unitarian church. we need a solemniser for both. Can a Catholic priest preform this ceremony or who can we get to do it. Huminists are not allowed at these two venues either.

    thanks in advance for any ideas

    R


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  • #2
    Whosthis
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    AFAIK a priest can perform the ceremony. My parents are divorced, one remarried and the ceremony was performed by a catholic priest in a chapel/oratory.


  • #3
    rover114
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2 ✭rover114


    Thanks but ever priest i have asked has said no way. maybe your parent who remarried got married in a registry office and then had a Catholic priest do a blessing .. I'm not sure


  • #4
    Mrs OBumble
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    Ask around - you need to find a particularly liberal Catholic priest who would do a blessing / non-church-wedding-ceremony. Many will say no - but some will do it.


  • #5
    PhoenixParker
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    Is there a reason you want the ceremony to be as close as possible to a catholic ritual? Is there a particular aspect of the ceremony you're looking for?

    A peculiarity of the solemnising laws in Ireland is that while there's a limited number of ways to get on the register of solemnisers, once you're on there you're not restricted to only that type of ceremony. So for instance a catholic priest doesn't have to perform a catholic ceremony in order to marry you, they can marry you in any suitable venue without the catholic part. Of course most of them won't, but that's a personal stance rather than anything legal. It usually takes a personal connection to overcome that reluctance, if it can be overcome.

    Outside of priests going rogue, for a ceremony similar to a catholic ceremony your best bets are probably humanist, unitarian, interfaith and spiritualist. They should all be open to any ceremony design and flexible.

    If it's the atmosphere (church) you're after then there are a few venues around the country that have de-consecrated private chapels on their grounds. Markree Castle is one, Borris House is another. They tend to be old country house/castle style where the family would have had a church.

    A registry office wedding a few days before your "wedding" might work too, if you can find a priest to perform a blessing in lieu of a marriage ceremony.

    I've often thought it's a pity that there isn't a wedding chapel somewhere in Dublin with an in-house humanist solemniser who cranks out 3 or 4 standard ceremonies every Friday and Saturday.


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