pregnant in shock

LegacyUser

Bit of back story. Have 2 kids 3 and 1. In the middle of building a house And living with my father in the meantime. My mother passed away 6 mths ago and I had been coping well until jan until it hit me. Went for counselling and put in antI depressants. Had been taking them but made me very tired. I mean I couldn't manage the day without being a zombie. Signed off work since feb. I told my gp about tiredness but she kept dismissing.
So I decided to wean myself all and am feeling good. Sleeping bettee etc the last few weeks. Life was on the up.
Then last week I realised I was pregnant despite being on the pill. Im in shock and lots of things crossed my mind. I was terrified going to my gp. I told her I was off the anti depressants and she told me to go back on them. I dont want to. I think im managing well without.
Do yiu think they will check my urine for it?
Also I am due back to work in a fortnight and am terrified to tell them my news. Iwent from maternity leave to being out sick with depression and now going back pregnant again! Im scared and I suppose a bit embarrassed. Can anyone give me any advise please? Or even tell me I am over reacting about my fears telling work. Only my hubbie knows about pregnancy and im keeping it like that until there's no denying im pregnant. Thank you in advance.

Emmser

You've two choices: return to your GP knowing that they are there to take care of you and your unborn child to the best of their ability or ask around about a new GP. If the medication is the only issue you've had with your old GP and they've been there for previous pregnancies I'd be reluctant to change. If you do change, make sure you tell them everything, about your medication and past. Try and get a gp recommended by someone then you'll have trust in them.
This is nothing to feel embarrassed about at all. No one should judge you. You should be celebrating, it's a wonderful thing. Just take care of your own health too so you're the best mammy you can be. It is a very stressful time, with the death of your mother, the house and the pregnancy so I would urge you to make an appointment as soon as you can and put your mind at ease.

The_Conductor

Talk to your GP. They are there to support you- not to pass judgement on you.
The timing may be interesting- but hey, there is never a perfect time for these things. I can't see work passing judgement on your either- though you would be well advised to ask people who know better than I do- as to when would be a good time to to tell them.

Congratulations on your impending arrival- unexpected though it is. Life is strange- it really is- think about where you're going to be in 10 years time- hopefully with happy little children heading towards being teenagers.

You have two wonderful little munchkins now- and are coping. 3 will not be as big a challenge as you imagine.

Talk to someone about when it would be a good time to tell work.

I know you probably feel overwhelmed by everything. Hugs.

Kaylami

I nearly could have written this myself.

Have 3 kids 5, 2 and 9 months and when baby was 2 months old we had a bad car accident.

Went to my gp who diagnosed post natal depression and anxiety issues. On antidepressants and anxiety tablets. This was in November. I was due back at work in December and went back but only lasted 4 weeks as I just wasn't coping.

On stronger meds, starting counselling and then found out I'm pregnant again. I'm not going to lie it threw me. I didn't want another baby.

Since then I've had time to adjust I'm now 22 weeks and back at work. I feel happy again.

After being off work for nearly a year the day I went back I had to tell them I was 5 months pregnant and you know it wasn't the end of the world!