Skype problem

LegacyUser

Hi folks,

Just looking for some feedback and advice on my issue.

Been with my boyfriend for 4 years. Your pretty normal relationship, no issues at all til recently.

Last year I found out he had a few online dating profiles (he forgot to clear his browsing history when he used my laptop). I had seen he had exchanged a few messages with pretty girls and he was asking them for naughty pics. I confronted him - he said he was just messing, that all lads do it and it's just a bit of craic. I told him I would walk if he kept it up, so he deleted all profiles.

Things great up to a few weeks ago where he appears to be on Skype 24/7, and I mean 24/7. He doesn't know I know he's on as I am set to invisible. Yet when he does see I am online he will never message me or call me I believe he is up to his old tricks and chatting to girls, except it being Skype it is obviously more than swapping pictures. I am so down in myself, There can't be any other reason for being on Skype 24 hours a day. It's not a Skype bug or a settings issue, he is on an iPad and it says "away" when he has no wifi, so it's not a case of it being set to always online, he is active on it all the time. What women could possibly be chatting to him constantly??? My friends say he probably has many girls and is chatting to them all.

I haven't confronted him yet about this. To be honest I am just feeling sick. We have an amazing sex life, not that he would need to look elsewhere for his kicks.

I am so tempted to just walk without giving him any explanation. He really doesn't deserve it.

Just wondering what should I do? My gut is telling me I know well what he's up to, and to leave him, but a tiny part of me is wondering could there be an innocent reason.

Thanks for reading guys

Stavro Mueller

There could be a perfectly innocent explanation for why he’s always online but the man has form. I don’t buy for one second that excuse of him only setting up online dating profiles for the laugh. That chestnut is as old as the hills. And to be honest, that he was in a relationship and asking girls for naughty pics is just a bit sleazy in my opinion. The sort of sex life you have has absolutely no effect on what this guy seems to be doing. You could be swinging from the chandeliers every night but it’s still not going to stop someone from cheating if that’s what they want to do.

You could confront him of course but he might just lie through his teeth. The question is - do you trust him?

kjl

I have skype on my phone and it shows me online 24 hours a day.

Just saying.

skallywag

kjl wrote: »

I have skype on my phone and it shows me online 24 hours a day.

Same here. I've Skype on multiple devices and I appear online 24/7.

Have a think about it logically OP, he cannot really be actively engaged 24/7 ? That aside though, the dating profiles themselves would have me very worried, it's not normal.

I can tell you almost unequivocally that not every guy is going online and asking women for naught photos while in a relationship. Some might, but not all. It is still wrong to do it, but just wanted to tell you that it isn't the norm.

As others have said - their being online 24/7 doesn't mean much - the Skype app is constantly running in the background of your devices's memory, even if you're not actively using it, unless you actually close it down yourself. This might be why it shows him as online constantly.

silverfeather

Having dating profiles while in a relationship would signal alarm bells to me.

You said that you had seen he had exchanged pics etc. I have never in my life exchanged a pic. If you are in a relationship with someone you don't do that.

Believe me not all guys do that. You deserve one that doesn't.

cactusgal

silverfeather wrote: »

Having dating profiles while in a relationship would signal alarm bells to me.

You said that you had seen he had exchanged pics etc. I have never in my life exchanged a pic. If you are in a relationship with someone you don't do that.

Believe me not all guys do that. You deserve one that doesn't.

This +1,000. I'd never stay with someone with dating profiles up!!! Life is short. Raise your standards, big time!