Living in England, but in 2 minds about moving home

Rebel Boy

Hi all,

My head has been fried the last few weeks. I've been living in England for 9 months now and most of the time I love it, but I'm almost 27, single and all my family and most of my friends are back home. The last few weeks I've been considering moving back home, but the thing I'm worried about is that if I'll get a job and will I become very bored within a few weeks of moving back. I did live in Australia when I was 22 for a year but I was younger then and still had the travel big when I came back which drove me to moving over here. I know I'd have a fairly good chance of getting a job back home as there is a few jobs in the industry I work in, but not sure if moving back home is the answer to solving the question. I know deep down my Dad wants me to move home but won't say it to me. I'd appreciate any advise.

Mr. 3

You know the craic here. And the craic knows you. And the craic is grand.

But if you're really happy where you are, you should stay - otherwise you might in the future experience regret, resentment or other negative emotions.

Regarding the boredom. Boredom can be a wonderful thing. There's many don't have the time to be bored. If it really gets to you though, take up a new hobby. Hobby is of course just a word that describes you doing something you enjoy. And when you really enjoy something, you won't experience boredom.

A) If happy where you are, don't rock the boat. Don't upset the rhythm.
If you want to come home, do just that. And to combat boredom, become enthusiastic about something new.

Either way, don't give a sh*t about what anybody else thinks and best of luck. Look after yourself first and the rest will happen naturally.

keithclancy

Rebel Boy wrote: »

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Do what you like OP.

Ireland is only a hop away from the UK anyway, its not like flights are expensive or the ferry isnt there as well.

Ironically you might find you see people less when you are around all the time.

AJG

Interesting... been having the same thoughts myself... been over nearly 18 months. I've never been a massive fan of the place having lived here for a few years in my early twenties.

I moved back with an open mind in order to find work and found a job pretty easily. It only just about pays the bills though. I'm not too sure I'd find any work if I moved back to Ireland though? Tbh I feel a bit trapped over here. I work in education and schools here seem to be pretty terrible places to work... daily abuse and zero support from management. I've been trying with little success to find a better paying role that doesn't require me to work 50/60 hours a week.

I guess the only advice I could offer op would be weigh up the pros and cons (write them out perhaps). I know if I was in your position I'd have moved home yesterday:) Good luck regardless.

Santa Cruz

keithclancy wrote: »

Do what you like OP.

Ireland is only a hop away from the UK anyway, its not like flights are expensive or the ferry isnt there as well.

Ironically you might find you see people less when you are around all the time.

I agree with your last comment. It's alright coming home for a visit and you will see your pals but if in Ireland fulltime you will find that they have their own lives to lead, relationships and jobs. They wont be putting you on top of their priorities. Stay in the UK and look out for a jobyou are happy in, stsrt making new friends. Returning to Ireland too often for visits will mean you arent giving the UK a proper chance.

Stavro Mueller

Why is it that you moved to England in the first place? You mentioned living in Australia when you were 22 but where were you after that? Were you bored in Ireland if that's where you've been since? I'd have thought that no matter where you live, life eventually settles into being familiar and humdrum. Long term where would you like to see yourself living? In Ireland where your family and friends are? The person who warned about your friends not being around all the time is spot on. Especially as you move into your late twenties and into your thirties. You're probably seeing that already - they're settling down, starting to have kids.

Maybe you should move home for a while to find out. You seem to be in a profession where you can find work both here and in the UK. So if there's that doubt in your mind, come home and get a job here. If you find that you're itching to go again you've got your answer. You can always get another job in the UK.