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triple nipple

So I'm sure its been done before, but out of curiosity, what age were you when you flew the nest ? if you're still at home do you ever plan on leaving ? what age is it not ok to still be living at home in your opinions?

Paulw

I moved out of home at 17. Never regretted it.

athtrasna

17 for me too, university and then on to the real world!

kippy

17

Connavar

18 when going to collage. Can't understand how people are still willingly living at home any later than that

Paul.k.b.90

left at 17 for college, stayed out until I was 22, wanted to start saving for a house and couldn't save anything of note renting in Dublin at the time. All going well should have more than enough for 20%+ deposit by the end of the year.. I'm 25

kippy

Connavar wrote: »

18 when going to collage. Can't understand how people are still willingly living at home any later than that

Well, in fairness, I didn't have a commute option to college.

For those living in or near a city/town with a college in it that they went too, why take on all the extra expense of renting somewhere when you can live at home?

seamus

My parents moved house when I was in the middle of my leaving (youngest child), which was a pretty clear indicator that they wanted us all to feck off and move out

I hung around the family home till I was 19 but in reality I spent about six months couch surfing because my parents had moved to the arse end of Wicklow and I wanted to spend my college days drinking in Dublin. So I moved in with my brother shortly afterwards.

Can't say I was properly "moved out" because I was living rent free and my parents were paying my insurance for getting around, but apart from that I was otherwise working part time in college and paying for myself.

I wouldn't really criticise anyone for still being at home, but if you're 18 and your Mammy is still washing your clothes and making your dinner, you need to get your **** together. If you're an adult you should be sharing the home as an adult, not living like a child.

The_Conductor

17. Still brought laundry home for 2 years- as my accommodation didn't have a washing machine. Note- I brought my laundry home- and did it myself- I didn't hand it over to Mammy. Raiding the fridge at home was a bigger temptation........

desertcircus

Moved out at 24 when I graduated, moved back in with my mother at 26 when she was made redundant. Moved into a place with my girlfriend (now wife) at 30.

Assuming that people should be out on their own at 18 is wildly unrealistic in a lot of cases. If you're going to college in your home town and your parents aren't wealthy but can still put you up, then it's outright madness to contemplate it.

TheChizler

Moved out at 24 into a lovely apartment, moved to a dump after that cause the housemate wanted a house, and moved home 4 months later when the dump partially collapsed. Planning on moving out soon with my gf, but we have differing opinions on whether renting is dead money or not.

MadDog76

As a parent (young children) I have to say I'd be in no rush to see my kids leave home ........... financial reasons would be one reason but to be honest it's more because I know that when they're gone they're probably gone forever ......... I'll enjoy having them around with me for as long as possible without holding them back until the time comes for them to leave ......... my wife feels the same.

MarkAnthony

18 in with the rich girlfriend whose mother just bought her a place when we went to Uni. Downside was she (both) was an utter... anyway.

Bought my first place at 20. The benefits of a properly function property market and 100% mortgages.

Mrs OBumble

MadDog76 wrote: »

As a parent (young children) I have to say I'd be in no rush to see my kids leave home ........... financial reasons would be one reason but to be honest it's more because I know that when they're gone they're probably gone forever ......... I'll enjoy having them around with me for as long as possible without holding them back until the time comes for them to leave ......... my wife feels the same.

Come back to us when they're teenagers and let us know how you feel then.




On-topic: 22. But I paid board at market-rate from the day I turned 18. Stayed at home for college and while I got my first real job and started saving. (I remember being within $50 of flat broke.) Moved out about six months after starting work.

MadDog76

Mrs OBumble wrote: »

Come back to us when they're teenagers and let us know how you feel then.




On-topic: 22. But I paid board at market-rate from the day I turned 18. Stayed at home for college and while I got my first real job and started saving. (I remember being within $50 of flat broke.) Moved out about six months after starting work.

I'm back!
Probably should have mentioned this but I've also raised my niece and nephew (long story as to why) ........... my niece was 4 when I/we took her on and my nephew was a few months old ........... anyway niece is now 19 and nephew is 15.
Are they typical difficult at times teenagers .......... absolutely!
Do I want to see them fly the nest ......... absolutely not!

Woshy

22, when I finished college. I then moved in with my boyfriend (now husband) at 23.

We lived with my parents for 6 months just before we bought a house, to house sit for them as they were travelling and also so we had less stress when house hunting etc

At 24 because I was moving to a different city. Had no desire to move out and had I got work near home I reckon I'd still be living at home unless I had bought my own place (I'm 30 now). To think of all the rent I would have saved living at home. I still spend a lot of time there (regular weekend visits, all the holidays etc) keep most of my stuff there, bedroom still mine and kept as I want it etc.

MouseTail

17 for me too. I don't think I'd want my own children moving out that early, but certainly if they were making no moves by their mid 20s I would be strongly encouraging them to do so.

Hollister11

19 and still living at home. I'm in college full time, and trying to find a job, so I can contribute.

chakotha

Moved into my first flat aged 18 half way through first year university.

Frynge

Moved to canada after the leaving for the summer at 17 and came back for 1 week before moving out for good for college.

Mrs OBumble

Amina Mushy Birthday wrote: »

To think of all the rent I would have saved living at home. I still spend a lot of time there (regular weekend visits, all the holidays etc) keep most of my stuff there, bedroom still mine and kept as I want it etc.

That's an interesting way to treat your parents.

TheChizler

Mrs OBumble wrote: »

That's an interesting way to treat your parents.

Presumably they're ok with it or a skip would have been hired by now?

Mrs OBumble

Mrs OBumble wrote: »

That's an interesting way to treat your parents.

They would be glad to have me still living at home (they regularly comment on how its a pity I have to be wasting money on rent).

As above for regular visits, they want me calling home as often as possible to spend time there and help with the farm. In fact I have to call home at times as I'm needed. Why wouldn't I still have my room in any case, its my room (and that's how my parents see it). My siblings also have their own rooms even though one is moved out and the other lives at home half the time and away half the time depending on work roster.

I hate this opinion you get from some (on boards, never in real life) that your home house is like some house share and once you move out that its no longer your home. Equally if I were living at home I'd be laughed at if I tried to pay rent.

Eric Cartman

17, and the party never stopped.

miezekatze

I was 19 when I first moved out, ended up having to move back a year later though. I moved out properly when I was 24. I know people in their thirties who still live with their parents, it really wouldn't be for me though.

qwertyabcd

I am still at home, though Im nearly 27 so I do want to move out, my mum has bad arthritis in her hips and thats whats keeping me at home

lukesmom

29 almost 30 and I don't regret a thing. Live quite close to my parents too and wouldn't have it any other way. They half reared my eldest before his dad and I got married and bought our own place.

grey_area

Moving out in the coming weeks, I'm 22

Trying to figure out how much I can afford for rent in Dublin is tricky enough... Lots of decisions to be made in the next couple of weeks.

Tea-a-Maria

Moved out for college at 17, but my parents paid my way so that doesn't really count. They insisted by the way! I was going to get a part time job but they preferred me to be able to devote my time to study 100%.

I moved back home after college for a year to job hunt and study for entrance exams. I've been making my own way in the big bad world since I was 22.

Wanderer78

MadDog76 wrote: »

Are they typical difficult at times teenagers .......... absolutely!

not hitting them hard enough

Jamsiek

I was 18 when I went to college and moved out. However I moved back a few years ago for a short while.
Although I love my parents, I needed to get away again. I felt like I was in the way and I should be independent.
I lived in the UK and now Canada so always had the urge to travel. I love going home on visits but find myself getting restless if I'm there too long.

Mrs OBumble

Amina Mushy Birthday wrote: »

As above for regular visits, they want me calling home as often as possible to spend time there and help with the farm. In fact I have to call home at times as I'm needed.

It's a bit different if you're contributing labour to the family business - you may not be paying rent, but if you weren't doing the work they'd have to pay someone else to do it, so you're "paying" that way.

Some people believe that it's not psychologically healthy to be living at home once you're an adult yourself. Certainly I see "flying the nest" and establishing your own place in the world as an important part of maturation - and I'd have no problem saying that to ya IRL. Obviously others disagree, and that's fine, the world would be boring if we all agreed about everything.

Hollister11

I will probaly move out, when i'm 25, 2 years after getting my masters degree. If all goes to plan. I want to save up money for a house deposit before i leave.

eviltwin

18

ABajaninCork

I too was 18 when I left home. Bounced around a few rented places, lived with my Gran for a while and bought a flat at 22.

Asmooh

15 was tired of my parents

Alkers

21 and still I'm the same place 7 years later

ted1

24 when I finished college. Bloody engineering and its 5 year course. I was going to move out a few times but the family home is big and was very handy for college and town and nowhere i looked at would have been as good.
Age is only a number, to get a real read you need to look at house size. I reckon that if we lived in a smaller house I'd have gone long before.

I spent a lot of time over in my girl friends house, she lived at home too but was in the same situation where anywhere she went wouldn't have been as good as her own place.

222233

18 for college but returned home and still here now!

qwertyabcd

ted1 wrote: »

24 when I finished college. Bloody engineering and its 5 year course. I was going to move out a few times but the family home is big and was very handy for college and town and nowhere i looked at would have been as good.
Age is only a number, to get a real read you need to look at house size. I reckon that if we lived in a smaller house I'd have gone long before.

I spent a lot of time over in my girl friends house, she lived at home too but was in the same situation where anywhere she went wouldn't have been as good as her own place.

I think this is a very good point, my house is not huge but there is enough space for everyone to have privacy, since there are only two kids and four bedrooms no one is in each others space, all we have to do is shut the door. If we still lived in our old house which was alot smaller I would have moved out as soon as possible.

L1011

19, then after that I used the parents house as a base with a job that involved spending enough time to be Platinum in two different hotel chains in Ireland & the UK for a few years, moved out to mind a family members empty house at 23 then bought at 25 - only due to the monthly mortgage payments being about 2/3rds of renting.

However, I'd prefer we don't develop the culture that the US and more recently the UK has of people moving out at 17/18 to go to college and never returning - it ends up causing communities to never really develop and for areas to die off in to just being older people within about 30 years. I bought within 800m of my parents house not because I wanted to be close to them but because my entire social circle is here. Said family members house was also within a similarly close range for the same reasons.

I ended up being the youngest in my family to move out (due to the college in the town meaning older siblings didn't have to leave at all, I didn't go though) and I think the youngest to buy also but circumstance dictated both of those.

bee06

Moved out when I was 26 when I bought my own place. I lived 15 mins from college so it financially didn't make sense to move out for college.

ShaShaBear

Moved out for college at 18 and stayed out in a few different rented places until I was 22 - me and the partner split and I had just been made redundant. Lived at home for a year (where I was driven utterly demented) until I went back to college at 23 and have been out of home ever since (almost 28 now). Love my mum to bits but absolutely could not live with her now so myself and OH have a contingency plan if we ever need emergency accommodation :pac:

blackbird 49

When I got married at 24

Elessar

Still at home, 29. Never moved out. Made some silly spending decisions over the last few years and effectively had no savings up until a couple years ago. Now I'm saving over 50% of my wages. Couldn't possibly do that if renting. Plus I'm paying for an expensive part-time college course!

KatyMac

Never moved out. Now own the house where I was born for obvious reasons!
Won't be in any hurry to hunt my teenagers, but they will pay keep/rent to cover food, bills, etc once they have their own income.