pregnant at young age

cena

Recently I found put my 16 year old cousin is expecting a baby in December. The father of the child is 18 or 19 years old. I can't doing anything myself as she lives in the states. I AM HAPPY for her and hope she finishes school.

What would you do if this was daughter?

Dave0301

Support her and your soon to be grandchild as best you could.

ceadaoin.

There is nothing her parents can do at this stage is there? Besides support her as best as they can. That's what Id do

John_Rambo

Congratulate her and do my best to help her. I'd imagine, if she was my daughter at that age I'd be more or less rearing the kid.

Quazzie

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZPpdSzyDtL0

Full Marx

It depends, if he was a scumbag/addict etc I'd report him to the Gardai to keep him away from her and support her best I could.


Otherwise I'd try and support them both.


Thankfully I don't have any daughters. If my sons at that age got someone pregnant I'd lose the plot at them for being so stupid.

I'd square up to it and do whatever needs doing to make it all work for the best. I'd give her all the help I could so that the little one has the best start and the least likelihood of repeating the pattern. If I had a daughter in that position I'd probably be disappointed, but if you love your kids you just help them help themselves and don't love them any less in the times they screw up.

InitiumNovum

Full Marx wrote: »

It depends, if he was a scumbag/addict etc I'd report him to the Gardai to keep him away from her and support her best I could.

So you'd only report him to Gardaí for having sex with a minor if you thought he was a scumbag?

lulu1

Has the girl no parents of her own to deal with the situation. To be honest it wouldn't really bother me if my cousin in America was pregnant or not.

Full Marx

InitiumNovum wrote: »

So you'd only report him to Gardaí for having sex with a minor if you thought he was a scumbag?

If she was 16 and he was only a little older then yeah. Obviously if he was like 30 that would be a lot different.

fleet_admiral

Id buy her a coffee slice from superquinn

kingtiger

off to the Nuns with the trollop

Grab All Association

can't doing anything myself as she lives in the states.

The girl is in America. Even I spotted that and I just woke up half asleep antidepressant zombie.

Micky Dolenz

The Cunning Linguist wrote: »

Wouldn't happen.

I tell any potential boyfriend who wants to date my 14yo daughter the same thing on day one.

"Anything you do to her, I'm gonna do back to you."

No-one has ever been back a second time.

I can see this back firing (pun intended) in spectacular fashion

whupdedo

The Cunning Linguist wrote: »

Wouldn't happen.

I tell any potential boyfriend who wants to date my 14yo daughter the same thing on day one.

"Anything you do to her, I'm gonna do back to you."

No-one has ever been back a second time.

So what , you'd lick him out or finger him ???

s15r330

The Cunning Linguist wrote: »

Wouldn't happen.

I tell any potential boyfriend who wants to date my 14yo daughter the same thing on day one.

"Anything you do to her, I'm gonna do back to you."

No-one has ever been back a second time.

You'd get him pregnant?!

Nodin

InitiumNovum wrote: »

So you'd only report him to Gardaí for having sex with a minor if you thought he was a scumbag?

In most US states, 16 is the age of consent afaik.

One eyed Jack

cena wrote: »

Recently I found put my 16 year old cousin is expecting a baby in December. The father of the child is 18 or 19 years old. I can't doing anything myself as she lives in the states. I AM HAPPY for her and hope she finishes school.

What would you do if this was daughter?

Huh?

I suppose I'd ask the internet, people on the internet always know what to do.

Wait a minute OP, you never said what you'd do if your cousin was your daughter?

eviltwin

What can you do but be supportive. It's not your concern anyway. Obviously it's not ideal but it doesn't have to be the end of the world either.

Nodin

The Cunning Linguist wrote: »

Wouldn't happen.

I tell any potential boyfriend who wants to date my 14yo daughter the same thing on day one.

"Anything you do to her, I'm gonna do back to you."

No-one has ever been back a second time.

.....though appalled, I still admire your bravery in admitting that in a public forum....

lulu1

Be honest would anyone here really care if their cousin in America was pregnant or not.

If it was my daughter the first thing I would do is kill her

Then I would give her all the help I could what more can anyone do

Worse things have happened

DavidRamsay99

cena wrote: »

Recently I found put my 16 year old cousin is expecting a baby in December. The father of the child is 18 or 19 years old. I can't doing anything myself as she lives in the states. I AM HAPPY for her and hope she finishes school.

What would you do if this was daughter?

Get her an abortion.

Aint Eazy Being Cheezy

DavidRamsay99 wrote: »

Get her an abortion.

Uh oh..

willmunny1990

DavidRamsay99 wrote: »

Get her an abortion.

This is the obvious solution.

OP I had the same situation myself, cousin got pregnant by some waster whos family abandoned him and left him homeless, her father did everything he could to support him, tried to get him work, found somewhere for him to live, fed and clothed him along with bringing up the kid, took a tole on his health.

In the end the guy ****ed off out of the country which to be honest was the best thing he could of done.

She minds the child maybe two days out of the week when shes not in college or going out, I see her parents struggle and it really isn't easy, your cousin will be fine its her parents who will most likely suffer.