I feel trapped

LegacyUser

Ok, this is hard for me to write down and please let me know what I should do in this situation.
For the past few years, my ex and I have shared a one bedroom house ( I sleep in the sitting room ) this was as a result of my own situation turning upside down when I lost my home a few years back. I have since had different turmoils in my life, when my only child left home and I lost the love of my life in the same year. Since then, I hated living on my own, and the only one that came back was my ex (who is my childs father).

I have been making headstarts in my life and pushing forward with making money and doing what I love. But the problem is my agressive ex. He shouts and curses with a thunder. He recently was in a fracas where he headbutted someone, and years ago he once raised a fire poker to me as if he was going to hit me with it. Thankfully he didn't. I am deeply upset about what is taking place currently. He is obsessed with being a racist and yet a born again Christian. He is involved in areas where I am apalled at. I am not a racist, yet he pulls me in to do his 'office work' and I am so disillusioned with all of what he does. I hate it. I am not an agressive person. I cry easily and hate my situation. I have no money means to escape this. I would love peace and to feel I can do what I need to do to sort out my life. He condesends my work and calls it 'sh*t. yet I have lots of others saying its amazing etc. I don't get his view of my work.

I feel trapped and not sure what I can do that I can be ok with. I can't apply to the council cos of a situation that occurred a few years ago. I would love to leave the country and disappear, that's how I feel, but I've a daughter that I love. She's an adult and is very independant. I just wish I knew what to do. I feel lost.

Lollipops23

dontknowhattodo wrote: »

I just wish I knew what to do. I feel lost.

The most important thing is that you remove yourself from this current living situation. Get in touch with a women's refuge. Just because he hasn't beaten the hell out of you, doesn't mean he's not abusive. You can't go on living with him, you're not even a couple anymore.


There is support out there, please take it.

porsche boy

get out of that situation. Dont let him tarnish your work and how it makes you feel about yourself. Dont let him break you. You have one life and to spend even a small amount of it around someone who makes you feel like that is a waste. womens refuge as suggested would be a good start, onec there apply for housing in the local gov offices and enjoy andmbe proud of yourself. good luck OP.

LadyAthame

You have to leave him and get a restraining order. You are dealing with someone who is detached from reality and extreme in ideas and behaviors. He seems to have a difficult personality with the racist ideology etc. I would think he is controlling and the christian thing is all image. DON'T think he can change or that he will. Could you stay with a friend? Go to a refuge. Don't get drawn into arguments just leave. Tell others not to tell him where you are.

power pants

Definitely need to leave but I dont think a restraining order is needed. OP never mentioned anything to suggest one is needed.

Certainly not condoning the man's actions as they are completely out of order but she chose to move back, he didnt force her or come after her to do so.

Phone up a few women refuges or even talk to your daughter maybe?