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hsjsj

I'm with my bf 2 years it's going well and I really love him however whenever we all go drinking his best friend tries to hold my hand and hug me up until now I just figured he was an affectionate drunk but recently we all went out and got really drunk and again his friend tried to hold my hand so I just put my arms around my bf whenever he tried, I think he might have either tried to kiss me or given me a small kiss on the lips but I'm unsure because we where all so drunk. If he has kissed me I've just unintentionally cheated on my bf and I really hope that didn't happen because I don't think of his friend that way and I never wanted to cheat on my bf I'm really unsure on how to approach this do I confront his friend and ask what happened or go straight to my bf who might break up with me over this an he probably won't talk to his friend who he has been best friends with for 20 years, I really don't know what to do

strobe

Talk to the friend. You may be reading a whole lot into very little. Some people are just very touchy, without it meaning anything, could just be that. Or might be something else but at the minute you don't know. Just say to him "Bob, would you mind not being so touchy feely with me when we're out? It makes me uncomfortable and I don't reckon Billy would like it either". See if that sorts it.

hsjsj

strobe wrote: »

Talk to the friend. You may be reading a whole lot into very little. Some people are just very touchy, without it meaning anything, could just be that. Or might be something else but at the minute you don't know. Just say to him "Bob, would you mind not being so touchy feely with me when we're out? It makes me uncomfortable and I don't reckon Billy would like it either". See if that sorts it.

At first I thought he was just a touchy feely person but it just feels like its gone past that especially if he did kiss me, that's the part I'm really worried about I don't want to have cheated on my bf

maria34

So he kissed you or he didnt? First post say u dont know second sats he did?

strobe

hsjsj wrote: »

At first I thought he was just a touchy feely person but it just feels like its gone past that especially if he did kiss me, that's the part I'm really worried about I don't want to have cheated on my bf

It's not your fault if someone just lands a kiss on you, you can't walk around with a big hanibal lecture face mask on to protect against the possibility. You're boyfriend is more likely to break your man's legs than break up with you if that's what happened.

Either way I still reckon say to him something along the lines of what I said. For now assume it's relatively innocent and approach it as such. If it continues beyond that point, tell your boyfriend.

Though maybe try not to get so drunk in future that you can't remember if someone kissed you or not. That **** will get you in trouble one way or another.

If you can't remember whether or not he kissed you, maybe you kissed him? In which case your bf probably would break up with you.

hsjsj

maria34 wrote: »

So he kissed you or he didnt? First post say u dont know second sats he did?

It says IF he kissed me

LadyAthame

He sounds really sleazy. I would tell him to get lost. If my bf had an issue with that then he is sleazy too. I would have huge issues going out with him again.

You're boyfriend is more likely to break your man's legs than break up with you if that's what happened.

Well that's the way he should feel. Your bf should be on your side or else he isn't worth it.

He should know it makes people especially of the opposite sex uncomfortable. It's better to risk losing a relationship than be with someone who would see you treated that way. Tell your bf . The guy is a terrible friend if he does that to him anyway.

No friend sort of kisses his friends gf unless he is a sleaze. No guy would put up with his 'friend' sort of sleazing on his gf.

You are the wronged one. The friend is the one in the wrong.

Typer Monkey

Just tell him, while sober, to lay off mauling you when he's drunk? I wouldn't make a big deal of it though..just tell him you don't appreciate it and you want it to stop. Be assertive OP

CaraMay

Next time he does it just say 'hands off' and if he doesn't listen then tell your bf

Engine No.9

I'd actually forget about it tbh. One things for sure, you didn't sleep with him. And if he did kiss you and you didn't reciprocate..... There's been no cheating here. Put a period on it and move on.