What sentence will my ex get for assaulting me

acuriouscat

Ok long story but my ex whom I lived with for a year got drunk one night and verbally abused me in public,pulled the handbrake on my car punched me then threathened my kids and me and threw a drink in my 12 year olds face. Guards came and removed him,I stupidelly thought he was having a break down or something and although I moved out I stayed in contact(dumb) well he attacked me a second time,punched me in the face and so that was the last i seen of him. He's now telling everyone im crazy ,it's my fault ,im lying etc.
I had enough and pressed charges for the assaults,and got a protection order! But he contacted the gardai as revenge and claimed im harrassing him(I have contacted him yes but up until two weeks back he was contacting me constantly) Iv stopped all contact and I want this man to be held accountable for his actions towards me and my children.
What I want to know is what's the general sentence for this and if I was dumb enough to contact him after these offences will the judge not take me serious?

Zaph

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BaronVon

Very difficult to predict what a judge may do. If your ex has no previous convictions, he may even be eligible for an Adult caution, so won't even go to court.

If he's charged with assault, and has no previous, mostly likely get a fine/compensation to you, or a suspended sentence.

irishgirl19

I wouldn't get your hopes up tbh. My ex only got a 2 month suspended sentence for an assault on me,on the condition he works with the probation service for 2 years and refrains from contacting me. The assault took place while I had an active safety order and he didn't plead guilty at the first opportunity either.
I think at best,you should aim to get a conviction so it will be on his record and may protect women in your situation in the future.
The guards are also used to the abuser blaming the victim and pretending it was them who was abused - very common. Try contact women's aid who will talk you through the process and prepare you for possible outcomes. Good luck and well done for pressing charges.

acuriouscat

irishgirl19 wrote: »

I wouldn't get your hopes up tbh. My ex only got a 2 month suspended sentence for an assault on me,on the condition he works with the probation service for 2 years and refrains from contacting me. The assault took place while I had an active safety order and he didn't plead guilty at the first opportunity either.
I think at best,you should aim to get a conviction so it will be on his record and may protect women in your situation in the future.
The guards are also used to the abuser blaming the victim and pretending it was them who was abused - very common. Try contact women's aid who will talk you through the process and prepare you for possible outcomes. Good luck and well done for pressing charges.

Thank you for your advice and im sorry it happened to you too.
I think if these men were properly punished by the courts they might think twice about their actions
And it turns women off reporting them,knowing they will get a slap on the wrist and off they go

acuriouscat

infacteh wrote: »

Very difficult to predict what a judge may do. If your ex has no previous convictions, he may even be eligible for an Adult caution, so won't even go to court.

If he's charged with assault, and has no previous, mostly likely get a fine/compensation to you, or a suspended sentence.

No the Gardai have told me it will go to court,it's two separate offences and threath to kill,pulling my handbrake etc
But knowing the court system in this country I wouldn't be surprised

billy few mates

Zaph wrote: »

Giving legal advice is not permitted on Boards, but I'll move this to the Legal Discussion forum and the mods there can decide if it's appropriate to re-open it.

How can the OP's question be seen in any way as a request for legal advice...?

joe912

I have a question why would you keep in contact with somebody that assaulted you and threatened your children and whom you have reported to the gardai. This will surely go against you in court.

He SHOULD get jail for punching you in the face, even if only a week or two, but he won't.
Irish courts are so soft that we have situations that somebody with 42 convictions is on the streets to commit a murder.

zeffabelli

It's a first offence? Any medical evidence? Hard to know.

If you have taken out a safety or protection order do not make any contact, including third party. You will not only undermine your case but it cod look like entrapment.

death1234567

zeffabelli wrote: »

It's a first offence? Any medical evidence? Hard to know.

It's not hard to know. There's no chance he'll see the inside of a prison cell. The "Justice" system is a joke in this country.

Zambia

acuriouscat wrote: »

Ok long story but my ex whom I lived with for a year got drunk one night and verbally abused me in public,pulled the handbrake on my car punched me then threathened my kids and me and threw a drink in my 12 year olds face. Guards came and removed him,I stupidelly thought he was having a break down or something and although I moved out I stayed in contact(dumb) well he attacked me a second time,punched me in the face and so that was the last i seen of him. He's now telling everyone im crazy ,it's my fault ,im lying etc.
I had enough and pressed charges for the assaults,and got a protection order! But he contacted the gardai as revenge and claimed im harrassing him(I have contacted him yes but up until two weeks back he was contacting me constantly) Iv stopped all contact and I want this man to be held accountable for his actions towards me and my children.
What I want to know is what's the general sentence for this and if I was dumb enough to contact him after these offences will the judge not take me serious?

Please draw a line in the sand now. If you have a safety order why circumvent the Gards efforts to protect you by contacting him!

zeffabelli

Zambia wrote: »

Please draw a line in the sand now. If you have a safety order why circumvent the Gards efforts to protect you by contacting him!

There are also have been cases of people who have gotten safety orders placed on them....the plaintiff then contacts them or goes within their vicinity violating the order...the defendant thinks its hunky dory and that things are ok and then they get arrested for violating the order....it can be seen as entrapment.

Little CuChulainn

zeffabelli wrote: »

There are also have been cases of people who have gotten safety orders placed on them....the plaintiff then contacts them or goes within their vicinity violating the order...the defendant thinks its hunky dory and that things are ok and then they get arrested for violating the order....it can be seen as entrapment.

Contact alone does not violate a safety order.

acuriouscat

joe912 wrote: »

I have a question why would you keep in contact with somebody that assaulted you and threatened your children and whom you have reported to the gardai. This will surely go against you in court.

Stupidity. He was seeking help,I thought he was having some sort of breakdown. I wasn't ronantically with him but I thought I could help him. Dumb yes!!

acuriouscat

zeffabelli wrote: »

There are also have been cases of people who have gotten safety orders placed on them....the plaintiff then contacts them or goes within their vicinity violating the order...the defendant thinks its hunky dory and that things are ok and then they get arrested for violating the order....it can be seen as entrapment.

I have not spoken to him in a few weeks,there was no contact after the last incident

acuriouscat

[Deleted User] wrote: »

He SHOULD get jail for punching you in the face, even if only a week or two, but he won't.
Irish courts are so soft that we have situations that somebody with 42 convictions is on the streets to commit a murder.

Yes I agree,it gives people the green light to do as they wish with no consequences. But if I didn't pay my tv licence I be sent to prison. It's a joke

acuriouscat

zeffabelli wrote: »

It's a first offence? Any medical evidence? Hard to know.

If you have taken out a safety or protection order do not make any contact, including third party. You will not only undermine your case but it cod look like entrapment.

I have photos of a large bruise and I have not contacted him in any way since I got the protection order

acuriouscat

death1234567 wrote: »

It's not hard to know. There's no chance he'll see the inside of a prison cell. The "Justice" system is a joke in this country.

No he won't see prison,it makes me want to not nother going through the whole horrific process of court knowing he will get a slap on the wrist