Forgot to invite someone, feel terrible

Green Giant

It was entrusted to me to organise the end of year social for a community group in which I'm involved. I was happy to take it on as it's always a great night but, after several times double-checking that I had invited everyone, I realised today that I missed out one person.

Hugely embarrassed and ashamed, I contacted the person to apologise and invite them to the social. Thankfully they said yes and seemed OK about the initial screw-up, but the other group members have caught wind that I left that person out, albeit unintentionally. Now I'm worried that I'll be ostracised by the group over an honest yet potentially quite hurtful mistake.

Am I getting worried over nothing? Has anyone else had this situation happen to them? Sorry for boring you all, just needed to get it off my chest and this seemed the best way to go about it

artanevilla

It wasn't done on purpose, you explained it to them, they accepted. No worries OP.

To Elland Back

You're associated with the wrong group if they make a big deal over that.

Lisha

You made a mistake , owned up to it and fixed it honestly. You can't turn back time. You did your best and don't let anyone tell you otherwise.

Birneybau

I wouldn't show my face if I was you.

tom_tarbucket

Green Giant wrote: »

It was entrusted to me to organise the end of year social for a community group in which I'm involved. I was happy to take it on as it's always a great night but, after several times double-checking that I had invited everyone, I realised today that I missed out one person.

Hugely embarrassed and ashamed, I contacted the person to apologise and invite them to the social. Thankfully they said yes and seemed OK about the initial screw-up, but the other group members have caught wind that I left that person out, albeit unintentionally. Now I'm worried that I'll be ostracised by the group over an honest yet potentially quite hurtful mistake.

Am I getting worried over nothing?

Has anyone else had this situation happen to them?

Sorry for boring you all, just needed to get it off my chest and this seemed the best way to go about it

Yes.
No.

Hank Scorpio

Over thinking about nothing, unless the person you forgot was the Queen, but even then, meh.

volchitsa

In my experience it's hard to criticise someone who doesn't do anything. You went to the effort of organizing the night out, you made a mistake that you managed to sort out and no harm done - so anyone who didn't organize it themselves has no right to complain. If they think they can do a better job let them do it next year!

That doesn't mean no-one will criticize you, but so what? If the person concerned doesn't think you did it deliberately (is there a reason why you might have?) then that's all there is to it. I'd let the begrudgers bedamned!

Macavity.

You need to devise some sort of elaborate plot or hoax (involving venomous animals) to win back their trust.

Junkyard Tom

Green Giant wrote: »

Now I'm worried that I'll be ostracised by the group

They'll force you to dress up as a large flightless bird as punishment?

c_man

You handled it as best you could OP. Feel bad for yer man all the same, that's usually me

Green Giant

volchitsa wrote: »

In my experience it's hard to criticise someone who doesn't do anything. You went to the effort of organizing the night out, you made a mistake that you managed to sort out and no harm done - so anyone who didn't organize it themselves has no right to complain. If they think they can do a better job let them do it next year!

That doesn't mean no-one will criticize you, but so what? If the person concerned doesn't think you did it deliberately (is there a reason why you might have?) then that's all there is to it. I'd let the begrudgers bedamned!

Fortunately the person concerned wouldn't think I intentionally excluded them and I definitely don't have any gripe against them that would lead me to deliberately leaving them out. It's just the (probably unnecessary and very unlikely) fear that others might have thought I did it deliberately.

To Elland Back wrote: »

You're associated with the wrong group if they make a big deal over that.

Some of them are among my best friends so I don't think they would. In truth, I'm probably worrying over nothing.

The Backwards Man

A fella near me invited all of our class to his 10th birthday party. Except me.

A dark winter's night about a month ago, hailstones battering, wind howling, I came upon a car that had obviously broken down on a long, dark, secluded, spooky country road. A distraught figure was huddled in the front seat as I pulled up alongside. It was my former classmate.

Just as I could see the relief spread over his face as he recognised me as his would be rescuer, I wound down the window and yelled over the swirling din.

'FCUK YOU, YA WANKER!!!!'

And drove off.

crazygeryy

Hang your head in shame. You disgust me.




Just kidding who gives a ****.

cloud493

Thanks for not inviting me OP

AndonHandon

Burn the venue down.

Sleepy

Wow, you're really over-thinking this. You copped your own mistake and rectified it before anyone else noticed. That's an admirable thing, and in fact, something many employers look for in staff!

MistyCheese

*sigh* It's okay, I'll come. This time. Don't let it happen again through. I might not be free at such short notice next time. I could get a call from Leo diCaprio saying one of his supermodel friends has taken ill and he wants me on his yacht. You never know.

Green Giant

Sleepy wrote: »

Wow, you're really over-thinking this. You copped your own mistake and rectified it before anyone else noticed. That's an admirable thing, and in fact, something many employers look for in staff!

Others did notice, that's why I'm so disgusted over it!

2Bints1Joe

Lucky you invited them before they started to go all Rambo in Ennis

Junkyard Tom

Green Giant wrote: »

Others did notice, that's why I'm so disgusted over it!

Hey, you made a mistake because you're a human being and that's what we tend to do. You apologised to the person and now you're bothered about what happened which proves you're a conscientious person.

Give yourself a break.