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He took the child and left the country

  • 13-04-2015 3:51pm
    #1
    Helpless00
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1 ✭


    Hello, I know that this post might be here already but I have spent hours searching for some answers and so I have decided to post myself.

    I know I have to contact a solicitor myself and I will I just need to set my mind while I am waiting for things to happen.

    My marriage is over after 10 years, my husband was not a bad man he just acted super paranoid over jealousy and controlling matters. I had nothing to hide but i have no life either.
    We have a 5 year old son and few weeks ago I told him that I want to break up and he stared to get mental. It went so far that he took the child's passport and hid it, and then he told me that he was going to his fam. in Poland for holidays.. ( we are both polish leaving in Ireland for the last 2 years) During this 2 weeks holiday time he is barely letting me talk to the child and and telling that he won't come back unless I agree to marriage counselling. I have nothing left for him, I offered mediation service but he said i need a psychologist to deal with my issue. He is threatening me with lawyers talk and with accusations of cheating, of destroying the life of our child. Over the last 5 years he has done nothing at all I always have to look after every single matter myself. He would not even bring the trash out or the car to a mechanic. He won't be able to take care of the child, he can barely fry and egg. The end of the marriage is not a sudden thingi had told him already over a year ago that I was not longer willing to live this way.
    Well I should come to the question I guess!!
    What can I do if he does not come back with the child? If he comes back I will be facing hell in the house, and not sure how to cope with it. All I want is to separate from him but also would like to have custody of the child, of course I have no intentions to hide him from the father. For what it's possible I want my boy to have us both. Even if separated.
    I hope,I can get some suggestions to be able to rest at least in some of my worries. There is much more I should say about what I fear but for now I would stop here
    Perhaps I should ad we both work full time, I don't want any money nor I am seeking for Anything else, All I want is to get free of the prison I'm living in.

    Thank you all for support and help


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  • #2
    ABajaninCork
    Closed Accounts Posts: 8,411 ✭✭✭ABajaninCork


    OP - So sorry to read of your situation.

    I did a bit of digging, and found this on Wiki regarding the Hague Convention on Child Abduction. Poland is a signatory to that convention. If the child is found to be habitually resident in a country, Poland can order the child to be returned to you. I think. But IANAL!!

    You need legal advice - quickly!

    Good luck! :)


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