Don't like my dress....

itsame123

Hi all,

just looking for some advice, I am getting married in a few weeks, and I really am not happy with my dress. I bought off the rack, and its currently too tight. The dress maker keeps telling me not to worry that we can sort it out, but I just cant stop worrying about it!
Is the whole "there's the one dress out there for you" thing true??
Should I look again or am I too late?

Any suggestions and advice welcome

Neyite

itsame123 wrote: »

Hi all,

just looking for some advice, I am getting married in a few weeks, and I really am not happy with my dress. I bought off the rack, and its currently too tight. The dress maker keeps telling me not to worry that we can sort it out, but I just cant stop worrying about it!
Is the whole "there's the one dress out there for you" thing true??
Should I look again or am I too late?

Any suggestions and advice welcome

What kind of a dress is it? Can it be zipped up on you or is it worse than that? If the zip can go up, a no carb couple of weeks will see you fit into it comfortably, and if its a bit more than that, as in, a couple of sizes too small, then a lace up back combined with alterations shouldnt affect the integrity of the dress. If you want to pm me a picture, and give me an idea of how tight it is on you, I do know a little about sewing and I'd be happy to give you my amateur opinion?

itsame123

Thanks so much for getting back to me, it's a zip at the back, but its my upper back thats the problem, worst place to try and lose weight from! I will send you a pic and an honest opinion would be brilliant

kandr10

itsame123 wrote: »

Hi all,

just looking for some advice, I am getting married in a few weeks, and I really am not happy with my dress. I bought off the rack, and its currently too tight. The dress maker keeps telling me not to worry that we can sort it out, but I just cant stop worrying about it!
Is the whole "there's the one dress out there for you" thing true??
Should I look again or am I too late?

Any suggestions and advice welcome

It all depends on the style of the dress and what exact has to be done to make it fit. Mine was also too small but the girl I got for alterations took the zip out of the back, added a panel and corset style lace up situation so it was perfect in the end.
Also, is it just the fact it doesn't fit is putting you off? If you're happy with everything else, and youve got confidence in the suggested alterations, then relax! If you don't like other aspects of the dress, might be no harm to have a look but with only a few weeks to go, you'd have to buy a sample or something in your size with minimal alterations required.
To be completely unsentimental about it, there's definitely going to be another dress you like just as much. Think of the number of styles/designers/suppliers out there. However, you're obviously restricted in terms of time and budget so the probability of finding it would be lower.
It's hard to look at it objectively when you see it doesn't fit but try your best to look past that and be objective. It'll all work out in the end ðŸ˜႒

Fionn

i've seen lots of dresses at this stage and it always occurs to me that one of the better options are the sort of lace up ones that kandar mentions, there would seem to be more wiggle room for want of a better phrase.

itsame123

I will definitely ask her about adding this corset thing at the back, I just don't feel like its WOW, I don't know why cos I loved it at the start! I think because I got it a year ago, I have been able to look at other options and think, oh thats so much nicer than mine!

Neyite I have no idea how to send images in a pm

kildareash

Have you tried it on with your hair and make up done and the veil or whatever else you wearing? I think it makes such a difference.

Maybe try a juice detox diet, or no carbs, or exercise a bit more for the next few weeks...whatever suits you. Hopefully you'll loose a few lbs and just generally feel better in yourself.

GalwayGirl26

If you loved it at the start, I'm sure you'll love it on the day.
From what I understand, this happens to a lot of brides- it's just an addition to the nerves, stress, second guessing yourself phase!!
Once the alterations (which everybody has to go through) are done, and you have your hair/make-up/bridal glow etc, you'll feel a million dollars!

itsame123

Thanks so much, I think aswell when I tried it on I was so pasty, has no makeup, hair was all over the place! Hopefully this will all make a difference! The woman who owns the shop is the nicest lady, she is 100% sure that I will be happy when i leave the shop for the last time, I just have to trust what she says I think

kandr10

itsame123 wrote: »

Thanks so much, I think aswell when I tried it on I was so pasty, has no makeup, hair was all over the place! Hopefully this will all make a difference! The woman who owns the shop is the nicest lady, she is 100% sure that I will be happy when i leave the shop for the last time, I just have to trust what she says I think

You'll be fine. Great idea when you go in next time to have heels, hair up nicely and bit of makeup. I know exactly what you mean, I also bought my dress a year before. My sisters both got married shortly after me and I remember thinking I wish I'd seen their dresses before I got mine! Daft! Looking at my wedding pics now, I'm so glad I picked the dress I did. It's just too hard to see things objectively before hand

Neyite

itsame123 wrote: »

I will definitely ask her about adding this corset thing at the back, I just don't feel like its WOW, I don't know why cos I loved it at the start! I think because I got it a year ago, I have been able to look at other options and think, oh thats so much nicer than mine!

Neyite I have no idea how to send images in a pm

Remember, you picked that dress on the day because it looked stunning on you, and it made you feel gorgeous.

There are gorgeous dresses out there - I saw some stunners I'd love to wear, but I also know if I tried them on, I'd look like someone playing dress-up rather than a radiant bride in my own right. Some styles I loved, but looked utterly awful on my shape and size.

So they may be 'nicer', but you wont look as nice in them as you do in the one you picked, if you know what I mean. The one you picked, is the one that makes you a bride rather than just you in a wedding dress.

If there is an image on google images of your dress, just click the little globe icon with the chain link and paste the url into the popup box.

wuffly

If the dressmaker is confident she can sort it, I wouldn't worry. Mine had to be taken out 5 days before my wedding (unexpected surgery caused swelling and a big decrease it my fitness!), it still looked lovely. I had nightmares about my dress as i ended up picking something I would never have thought of (big skirt) the styles I liked didn't suit me. I'm remember thinking I'd be walking up the aisle on my own as my dad wouldn't fit with the dress, I only saw it 4 times before the wedding and loved it when it was on but it seemed to multiple in size when I thought about it. I did enjoy wearing it but I never got that 'the one' feeling, it was the one out of what I tried on. I think the others are right once you try it on with some heels and make up you will feel better about it. Best of luck!

An Bhanríon

Don't worry!!! I imagine it's just nerves coming up to your wedding that is making you doubt your choice of wedding dress. Also, as others have said, trying on your wedding dress with no make up, etc., is not the best way to find out if it looks well on you. I know this from experience. The day I went to collect my dress I was tired, my hair wasn't looking good, I was feeling really nervous about the dress and the photographs I took in the shop looked awful... in contrast to this on my wedding day my hair was done up, I had make up done, I was wearing jewellery, the wrap I got to go with the dress - I felt absolutely fabulous!

This has happened to many before you. Do not stress! You have lots of other things to do between now and your wedding, I'm sure. And there's no point in adding dress shopping to that.

If your dressmaker is sure the dress can be altered I'm sure it will be fine. Sometimes we put ourselves under too much pressure when it comes to our wedding dresses. If you loved your dress once you will love it again, I'm sure.

stickybookmark

would a bolero help?? i got this one off ebay.
http://www.ebay.co.uk/itm/NEW-Bridal-Ivory-White-Tulle-Bolero-Shrug-Wedding-Jacket-Shawl-S-M-L-XL-XXL-B70-/121320825865?pt=LH_DefaultDomain_3&var=420272920449&hash=item1c3f48e409

i'm working really hard on my arms and also losing weight but i have the bolero just in case i don't get my arms in presentable shape by the big day (June)

Frigga_92

I would definitely advise cutting carbs and seriously increasing your water intake for a couple of weeks, you're guaranteed to lose weight and your skin will look great.

Also, you bought that dress for a reason, don't forget that. The stress/nerves could be getting on top of you without you realising and you might just be looking for something to pick at.

If you're not happy with how the dress looks, why not invite over your bridesmaids (who I assume have seen your dress) and have a fun night in, do each other's hair and make up and then you try on the dress, seeing it with more of a polished look might help.