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Losing a loved one

  • 03-04-2015 7:16pm
    #1
    SillyMangoX
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 4,003 ✭✭✭


    I'm not sure if this is even the right place for this as it's not technically a bereavement yet, but yesterday my 94 year old granduncle had a stroke. He's in hospital just being made comfortable at the moment but it's so hard sitting around waiting to say goodbye. I want to be with him but if I'm in the room more than half an hour I start getting clostrophobic and feeling like I'm having a panic attack. We are all taking it in turns making sure there's someone always with him so he won't be alone and I'm the only one who can't help crying.
    It's my first time losing a loved one, and at almost 23 I'm very lucky that it's been this long. This man was like a grandfather to me as I never knew any of my own. He used to babysit us every day, we would visit him at least 3 times a day as he was next door up to going into the nursing home. He used to make us pick nicks and sing us songs, and it's thanks to him that I got the love of animals and nature that I have.
    He's always said he's In no rush to pass on but when he does, he's quite looking forward to the adventure of it and seeing all his family and friends again. It's very comforting knowing his outlook, and knowing now that he's as comfortable as possible.
    He becomes alert every now and again, like last night when the priest was with him doing the final sacrament he tried to raise is working arm to do the cross on his forehead and lips, and he knows when we are speaking to him.
    I don't know where I'm going with this thread but I just needed somewhere to say all this. It's just so heartbreaking to watch, but he's not going to be on his own :)


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  • #2
    messrs
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,853 ✭✭✭messrs


    I don't know what to say to give you any words of comfort, I unfortunately have lost far to many loved ones. Its a very difficult time for you and im sorry that you have to go through this, but maybe when your sitting in with him, talk about time from when you were younger and laugh at some memories you have made down though the years, remember all the good times. Or you could just chat to him about your life now, what your doing as in work/college.


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