First date first kiss question

daveyboy123

I've heard before that a first date kiss at the end of the date shouldn't include tongue. I went on a date last week and i was dropping the lad home and in the car we went in for a kiss but it turned into a big make out thing instead of a peck first kiss on the lips kind of thing. What do people think? Do you guys expect tongue on the first date kiss or no? Does it matter?

floggg

daveyboy123 wrote: »

I've heard before that a first date kiss at the end of the date shouldn't include tongue. I went on a date last week and i was dropping the lad home and in the car we went in for a kiss but it turned into a big make out thing instead of a peck first kiss on the lips kind of thing. What do people think? Do you guys expect tongue on the first date kiss or no? Does it matter?

Whatever feels rights for those concerned.

The only turn off for me would be somebody who follows "dating rules." I have no interest in playing those games - if something feels right, it's right.

All the rest is immature games and insecurity.

Rick_

My first date with my current boyfriend was just a peck on the lips as we were both nervous as hell. The second date we went with tongue. Strangely enough, when we talked about our first date recently as we had visited the same location again we both said we wanted to use tongue but were both so nervous of what the other one would think and whether it was too much too soon etc.

So basically, whatever feels right for you is what you should do. Don't fret over it.

Peregrinus

The rule have at least this relevance; if your date doesn't do the tongue thing, or doesn't do it with any great enthusiasm, it doesn't mean they're not into you. They could just be following The Rules.

The Rules are for nervous people (which is most of us, at one time or another). Not quite sure what's expected? Not quite sure what's too much, too soon? Or the other way around? The Rules will offer you a feeling of assurance which, although entirely misplaced, is nevertheless handy for getting you through those awkward first stages where you have no idea what you are doing.

floggg

Peregrinus wrote: »

The rule have at least this relevance; if your date doesn't do the tongue thing, or doesn't do it with any great enthusiasm, it doesn't mean they're not into you. They could just be following The Rules.

The Rules are for nervous people (which is most of us, at one time or another). Not quite sure what's expected? Not quite sure what's too much, too soon? Or the other way around? The Rules will offer you a feeling of assurance which, although entirely misplaced, is nevertheless handy for getting you through those awkward first stages where you have no idea what you are doing.

Personally I don't feel these rules are of any actual assistance to the nervous.
Instead of enjoying the moment and going at the pace which feels right for them, they are obsessing over what they should be doing, what they are told they shouldn't do and tryinh to apply the rules to what they other person is doing (even if they might actua be following a different set of rules, if any).

The best advice I can give to the nervous is that the other person will be just as nervous (if not more so), that most dates won't end in wedded bliss, and outside of some extremely unlikely wardrobe malfunction caught on live TV, the worst that can happen is an awkward moment or two after which you may never see the other person again.

So the stakes aren't really that high and you should just go for it.

lyinghere

It doesn't matter ! #Yolo