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Why Is My Life So Hard

  • 16-03-2015 05:44PM
    #1
    LegacyUser
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    I'm in a bad mood and venting so don't take too much heed.

    I was abused when I was a child and it's taken me a long time to get to a point where I could just accept it, I'm still though very bitter about it. I just feel as if my life is absolutely cursed and I don't know what I can do about it. I remember having a conversation with my Mother last year and she said to me 'life is just hard for some people' and that she thinks I'm one of those people. I fully believe it myself.

    I'm unemployed and in college doing something I don't enjoy. This at the moment is just adding to the whole heap of sh1t that is my life. What do I have to do for things to go right for me?

    Too top it all off and the worst kick is that my friends are starting to settle down. I've only ever had a 1 girlfriend as I was always dealing with my abuse and didn't feel like going out with someone. I actually feel alone and isolated. That's a big problem that I need to sort out.

    I was thinking about finishing this and heading to London to get a job. I really feel as if I need a fresh start somewhere new. I'm seriously considering it. I'm considering moving away as life here isn't fun, it's a real f@@king trudge. Would it be like that elsewhere, maybe, but I need to do something or I'm just going to die here slowly.


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  • #2
    Mayboy
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 113 ✭✭Mayboy


    Hi,

    I survived abuse and my life is turned around since I dealt with it. Millions of other people have too. I'll just highlight a few things that jumped out, don't take it personally but these are very common ways of getting stuck in a difficult place. You need to see a good psychotherapist (not counsellor) and work through these if you want to change your future.

    I'm in a bad mood and venting so don't take too much heed- passive aggressive - do you want help or not? If yes then ask for it without telling people not to take any heed. Most people will help you.

    I was abused when I was a child and it's taken me a long time to get to a point where I could just accept it, I'm still though very bitter about it. Of course you are, it is trauma, it affects every part of your life and has the power to seriously impact on your life until you deal with it. Maybe you do not accept it, because if you did you would not be bitter about it?



    I just feel as if my life is absolutely cursed and I don't know what I can do about it. I remember having a conversation with my Mother last year and she said to me 'life is just hard for some people' and that she thinks I'm one of those people. I fully believe it myself.     Thats certainly interesting on behalf of your mother to think that, you might want to look at the dynamic between you both and see if her 'advice' is actually helpful to you getting better?

    I'm unemployed and in college doing something I don't enjoy. Your choice to change it/ stop it/ think of another thing to do. Nobody is making you do it except you.

    This at the moment is just adding to the whole heap of sh1t that is my life. What do I have to do for things to go right for me? You have to put work into it, accept that it is difficult sometimes, accept that believing shyte your mother tells you may not be true and start to focus on the problem ONE piece at a time.

    Too top it all off and the worst kick is that my friends are starting to settle down. I've only ever had a 1 girlfriend as I was always dealing with my abuse and didn't feel like going out with someone. I actually feel alone and isolated. That's a big problem that I need to sort out. Great, you have identified one issue clearly, other people lives are theirs - not yours so stop comparing and start living your own.

    I was thinking about finishing this and heading to London to get a job. I really feel as if I need a fresh start somewhere new. I'm seriously considering it. I'm considering moving away as life here isn't fun, it's a real f@@king trudge. Would it be like that elsewhere, maybe, but I need to do something or I'm just going to die here slowly Maybe a change will be good, in my experience I found I brought all my baggage with me, maybe tiny steps and then see how it goes. Don't want to be negative but if you want to change you will have to start it.

    I really hope this will help, it may be a bit hard ass but your post is so negative (understandably so) that you are heaping more difficulty on yourself. I really wish you well! Good Luck.


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