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How can I forget someone?

  • 15-03-2015 8:32pm
    #1
    Thidp
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 147 ✭✭


    I know that all of us had suffered for love and it's part of life, but this one is really unfair.

    I'm not gonna tell you the whole history because would be too long, but I met a girl, she told me a thousand times that wanted to be with me, I ended up falling for her and now... she doesn't want anymore! She says "I am really sorry for telling you all those things, but I don't want anymore" and that's it! This is the nicest thing she says, the rest is like "Ok, I am not gonna answer you anymore, bye". At the moment for example, the last thing she said was "I'm serious, I'm not gonna talk to you anymore" and after that I left messages telling her to talk to me (I know that is a stupid thing to do, but I did) and she reads it and doesn't answer.

    That's the worst: the usual advice "forget her, there are plenty of fishes in the sea" doesn't work for me. I am the kind of guy that is very, very bad at meeting girls and I think that is the motive that I am suffering so much, because not only I really like this girl, but because I know that without her I'll probably be alone for a very long time. And that is the most cruel part of the story: I know that I am this kind of guy, so I don't even try something with a girl because I know that I probably won't be successful, but this time SHE started everything, I was skeptical like "that's not possible, this girl is not serious" (because she is very beautiful) but she kept telling me that she wanted me and I believed... and now this!

    I think that she is pissed of now because I insisted about an explanation and trying to be with her... I thought this was a situation where she was in doubt and I had to keep making sure that I was there for her, but that's not the case... and my "pressure" made everything worse.

    Why would a person do something like this? She is 18, by the way, but she is very mature for her age, intelligent... it's not the age, I know.

    Any advice? Do you guys think that if I cut everything that reminds me of her (photos, songs, not talking to her by mobile, Facebook, everything)... will I forget her fast? Keeping in mind that the solution "find someone else to help you forget her" probably will not happen... what do I do? I don't even have hope of being with her anymore, I just wish this all hadn't happened and I want to forget her!

    Sorry for the English mistakes and sorry if the story is not very well explained.


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  • #2
    Littlekittylou
    Closed Accounts Posts: 1,357 ✭✭✭Littlekittylou


    TIME.

    Time passing is the biggest thing that makes you forget someone. The more time that passes from you had contact the easier it will get.


    Agreed in this day of social media the constant updates of their recent life makes it harder to forget. Some people don't do social media but if she does and is fairly active on it just don't look for a bit.

    Go out and meet new people. One of the best ways to get over someone is to get under someone else. :-P

    Remember the pain she caused. Remember how hurt you are.

    Concentrate on your life even if things are going badly that can be even better for forgetting someone because you are focused on the now in you life.

    Remind yourself as the above posters said ....you were not respected etc.
    "that's not possible, this girl is not serious" (because she is very beautiful) but she kept telling me that she wanted me and I believed... and now this!

    Some people don't give others the time of day or respect they deserve. She was indifferent to your feelings. I am very sorry OP. But remind yourself of this. She would not make a good partner.


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