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Friends- time to move on?

  • 13-03-2015 10:38pm
    #1
    emma9
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 26 ✭


    Next week our school and the lads school will be spending the day together for a talk. I really want to go and while we were in school my friend did too. Then she text me earlier and told me she didn't want to go because she'd prefer a day off. I was a bit disappointed but that's fair enough.

    Her friend from the boys school told her that he'd go to it if she went, she was delighted and we agreed it would be a good laugh. He then said he wasn't going and she told me if he wasn't going then neither was she.

    I'm just pissed off because anytime she asks me to go anywhere with her I always go. She knows I was delighted when she said she was going and I really wanted her to go with me but she just changed her mind when he did. I really want to go but can't go without her because I'm not that close to others in my year, neither of us are. (Our friends are in ty and they're not going to the talk). I'm friendly with some of them but not close enough to spend the whole day with them.

    Am I overreacting? I just feel like maybe we're becoming interested in different things- I want to start going out, she doesn't and never really socialises outside of school. She doesn't agree with going out and kind of looks down on people who do. It's part of the reason I haven't gone out when I've been asked. A couple of times when she knew I had plans with other people, she asked me to go places with her and got a bit annoyed when I said no.

    This small thing has just made me wonder if she holding me back from what I want to do and maybe I should make friends with the other girls and go out if I want to.


Comments

  • #2
    LoonyLovegood
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 6,068 ✭✭✭LoonyLovegood


    You don't need to dump a friend totally, just start hanging out with different people. Plus, if you're going to college soon, you'll meet loads of new people


  • #3
    SepTomBer
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 57 ✭✭SepTomBer


    Value your friendship, you just need a little space.. respect each other decision but at some point you should open up your problems with her.
    I'll get annoy too if I'm on your shoes but I will not let it happen again so I'll talk to her.


  • #4
    AtomicKoala
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 881 ✭✭✭AtomicKoala


    emma9 wrote: »
    I'm just pissed off because anytime she asks me to go anywhere with her I always go.
    God, when this reliability isn't reciprocated it's annoying. Whenever I commit to doing something on a friend's request I endeavour to actually do it... but a few certainly would be unlikely to return the favour.


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