Facebook?

LegacyUser

Met a girl while out last week, got chatting, got on well and kissed.

Didn't get a chance to get her number on the night, but remember her name and we also have mutual friends.

I've found her on facebook, but her name is different to the one she gave (remember her saying she often used a different name... think her parents broke up, so she uses her Mam's name).

Anyway, should I add her or is it a bit stalkerish, especially considering I had to root around for her name a bit?

Wouldn't mind meeting up with her...

What you think?

zoobizoo

She gave you her name. Even when you pop a first name into your FB search, names will appear if you have mutual friends. She doesn't know that you've had to root hard for it.

Send a friend request. I've done it before. Some have turned into something more... others into nothing.

diograis

You have mutual friends, I wouldn't worry about if I were you OP.

Go for it!

Queen-Mise

Send her a message at same time as you add her as a friend. Explain that you liked her and if she had no interest in you then she could decline your friend request.

Pippy1976

Queen-Mise wrote: »

Send her a message at same time as you add her as a friend. Explain that you liked her and if she had no interest in you then she could decline your friend request.

Eh, no! Too much information.

add her as a friend. message her. see what happens. maybe somethin'. maybe nothin'.

but you won't know if you don't give it a shot.

Littlekittylou

I think add her with a message. Say you are not offended if she declines.

Dellnum

Send her a friend request, and if she accepts then ask her would she like to meet up.

Tigger99

Plus one to Pippys response. Suggesting that she doesn't have to accept your friend request if she's not interested comes across as quite needy. Just send her a friend request and leave the ball in his court.

arayess

Littlekittylou wrote: »

I think add her with a message. Say you are not offended if she declines.

AFAIK on Facebook if you aren't friends teh message will go into the 'other' mail box..with the spam.
She'll prob not get it. I'd send friend request and see what happens then

Lollipops23

I had a guy message me on FB to ask me out despite now knowing my last name. We'd met at a house party, so he knew who are mutual mate was.

I wasn't even slightly weirded out by it, but politely and respectfully declined as I was seeing someone.

Do it. Message her. Nothing ventured....

Tigger99

I've been asked out a few times over social media by guys I only met once. Never felt creeped out, thought it took balls.

Definitely add her as a friend. Hopefully she messages you afterwards, then you can take it from there.

Littlekittylou

Go for it. You have met her. It's just adding someone. Chat a bit interact. And ask her out then!

Littlekittylou

Littlekittylou wrote: »

I think add her with a message. Say you are not offended if she declines.

I wouldn't say anything about if they decline. To me it seems a little uncertain.

arayess wrote: »

AFAIK on Facebook if you aren't friends teh message will go into the 'other' mail box..with the spam.
She'll prob not get it. I'd send friend request and see what happens then

This is true, though I think it does depend on their own privacy settings.

Auldloon

Send her a friend request no message. Thats what I did with my girlfriend a year ago.

LegacyUser

Thanks for all the replys folks.

I sent her a friend request and she accepted! Were meeting up next week.

Thanks again

GT