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LegacyUser

My girlfriends ex boyfriend has a bigger penis than I do. When my girlfriend and I were just friends, it got brought up that he has a big penis. Once we got together, it came out that he is bigger than I am. She still says that I am better at sex and I am the only one to make her orgasm but still is this a big deal? I do not have a small penis, Im 6.5 inches long and she cant wrap her fingers around it lol so its thick but one of her girlfriends told me she said my penis is average meanwhile I've heard her say her ex is big. Is this a big deal? Does she think he is more of a man than I am? Or am i overthinking this? Btw, she loves sex with me and wants to have sex whenever we get the chance. But I cant shake this.

Tokyo

Yes, you are over thinking this.

As the saying goes, it's not the size that counts, it's how you use it that matters. And your girlfriend has repeatedly told you that she enjoys sex with you and that you are the only one to make her orgasm. So if you are worried about your prowess in bed because of this, the answer really doesn't get any better than the one you were given.

Stop thinking about it - it's a non issue. And enjoy the time spent with your girlfriend instead.

ABajaninCork

Hahaha. I couldn't help but laugh. Are you sure your GF isn't winding you up??

You know what they say, don't you? - Size isn't everything!! Your GF obviously fancies you, so just get on with it!!!

sadie06

Small&big wrote: »

Btw, she loves sex with me and wants to have sex whenever we get the chance.

Clearly you are over thinking this!

kylith

You're definitely over thinking it. It's very true that it's not how big it is, it's what you do with it. Stop obsessing about this before it becomes a problem. Your GF likes you, she chose you.

Small&big

Small&big wrote: »

My girlfriend ... says that I am better at sex ... I am the only one to make her orgasm ... she loves sex with me and wants to have sex whenever we get the chance

Sounds good to me!

Small&big wrote: »

When my girlfriend and I were just friends, it got brought up that he has a big penis ... one of her girlfriends told me she said my penis is average

It would probably help if you, your girlfriend and your friends quit discussing penises :rolleyes:

Saralee4

I agree it sounds like you are over thinking it op however I do think it is insensitive of her to go around telling people that yours is average and her ex is huge.

I wonder how she'd feel if you went around telling your pals that your ex had firmer bigger breasts but hers are only average.

But you have to think of it that way too, say that was true and your ex did have better breasts, would it make you love you current girl any less? no ,and your ex would still be your ex for the same reason but whatever else happened to cause the relationship to fail (but you could still appreciate the fact that she had great breasts ) .

strobe

If your ex had a slightly tighter vagina but the sex was still better with your current girlfriend, would you give a crap?

blue note

I think people generally day it doesn't matter because people believe you can do nothing about it. And to lots of people it doesn't matter. But to some girls (and guys) size does matter. they love the sensation and excitement of a big penis.

I don't know anything about enhancement and wouldn't advise anyway because it's against the charter. But have you considered tablets or surgery or a penis pump to increase the size of your manhood?

I've never needed to research it myself, I'm fairly well endowed in the pants department.

kylith

Any 'enhancement' would have to be surgical as, afaik, pumps and pills are useless. It's almost certainly unnecessary too; OP is on the larger side of average and he is apparently keeping his gf satisfied.

It's also possible, OP, that your GF prefers your penis - a too large one is worse than a too small one

kjl

ABajaninCork wrote: »

Hahaha. I couldn't help but laugh. Are you sure your GF isn't winding you up??

You know what they say, don't you? - Size isn't everything!! Your GF obviously fancies you, so just get on with it!!!

I don't think it's unheard to have a penis bigger than 6.5 inches.

Calibos

I'm amazed by all the 'it's not the size but what you do with it' type comments. That's what you say to someone who genuinely has a below average penis.

You don't. You are towards the high end of average bordering on slightly above average. Another thing is that maybe the GF and friends aren't aware of the 'show'er or grower' aspect of penile anatomy. Some lads have a penis that is larger when flaccid but it doesn't grow by much when erect, whereas others have smaller flaccid penis' that grow a lot when erect with both ending up the same size when erect. Some lad could be double your size when flaccid and yet be the same size when erect.

ie. Maybe her ex is a show'er and you are a grower?

LegacyUser

Calibos wrote: »

I'm amazed by all the 'it's not the size but what you do with it' type comments. That's what you say to someone who genuinely has a below average penis.

What? That's genuinely true, i mean yeah size matters to an extent but it's not big=good sex small=bad sex. In my opinion most bigger guys are notgood cause they think they don't have to try. Your girlfriend wouldn't be with you if she didn't enjoy sex with you.

ABajaninCork

kjl wrote: »

I don't think it's unheard to have a penis bigger than 6.5 inches.

It isn't. And??

My point remains. It's not what you have, it's how you use it...

Calibos

I didn't say that the aforementioned maxim is not valid, I said that because it is invariably used to help console the owner of a smaller than average penis, its over use in this thread could be interpreted by the OP as a thread consensus that he has a smaller than average penis...which he doesn't. Average is between 5-6 inches with the vast majority within the 4.5-6.5 range. ie. he's at the high end of average and has zero to worry about. He's got me beat anyway

Oppio is correct about the heavy hitters likely not necessarily being great in bed because they feel they don't have to try too hard because they are 'packing'.

Chemical Byrne

Look, I'm a guy and when I hear about fellas fretting and worrying themselves sick about the size of their penis I just think it is the most pathetic and insecure thing ever. (that is unless of course there is some genuine medical or anatomical issue). For me it's doesn't even register as a concern. Not because I am big, I don't even know how many inches it is, but just because I am what I am and can accept it and have better things to be doing than to be going around measuring my penis and sweating over whether it's half an inch bigger or smaller than my next door neighbour's. It is quite ridiculous.

What is more likely to concern your girlfriend is youy insecurity and lack of confidence. Girls can smell insecurity and low self esteem and I can assure you that it is x100 times more of a turn off than an average or slightly below average penis.

If you are 6.5" as you say, you are well normal. You are obsessing about a non-issue.

I would think with most women, (well any woman who is worth her salt and not some shallow, big titted party girl), penis size would be pretty close to the bottom of the list in what characteristics they want in a partner....if it's on the list at all.

Stop reading about big dicks on the internet, it is all 100% made up and exaggerated and pathetic. And please please don't consider any sort of "enhancements". That whole industry is merely a scam that is geared towards fostering and preying up insecurity and poor self esteem in men in order to extract money for treatments and surgeries that are a)unnecessary b)ineffective and c)probably harmful.

I hope you get over this hang up because in the grand scheme of life, it is quite trivial.

catonthewire

Any woman will tell you, it's not the size it's what you do with it that counts...

It is obvious that you give her immense pleasure, she's a very lucky lady...
Stop annoying yourself, take it from one who knows big penis equals big pain and NO pleasure......

Chemical Byrne

Another thing OP, if your GF was willing to dump you over the size of your penis it would be a damning indictment of HER character rather than any reflection on your value as a man and if that did happen you would be doing well to be rid of her.

I would have similar feelings about women who worry about the size of their breasts and such. Any potential partner who considers breast size a dealbreaker is obviously a shallow hal and not relationship material.

Off topic: Now, maybe it's just me but in a woman I have little or no interest in breasts. In fact I consider big huge busty breasts (think Jordan and her ilk) to be actually vulgar, disgusting and completely off-putting.
Personality, and an overall pleasant physical look is far far more important to me rather than some hypersexualised slutty type thing.

beks101

^^ LOL at the 'Shallow Hal' little sermon about people who make size judgements, rounded off nicely with an offensive rant against women with their "vulgar and disgusting" big boobs. Hypocrisy at its finest :pac:

Yes of course size matters. But as the above so vividly and humorously illustrated, 'perfect size' means a different thing to almost everyone. Not everyone likes big boobs and not everyone wants a foot-long penis. Equally lots of men love knockers and lots of women prefer bigger and thicker.

Sex to me and to most people is about a hell of a lot more than an alignment of body parts, but I have my physical preferences as we all do and things that just work and feel better with my own anatomy.

Personally, I have no idea about measurements but what would constitute the 'perfect size' for me would probably be closer to 'average' than 'Ron Jeremy' - and that's just the first step in the process. The next is all down to how confident he feels in his own skin and that leads on to how he 'owns' his own equipment and has learned about how to give pleasure with it. And most importantly, how much he actually cares about my pleasure and getting closer to me as part of this intimate act, as opposed to jack hammering away and trying to bring me to multi-orgasms as a means of satisfying his own ego. Eugh. Nothing worse than that kind of insecure man in bed.

So yes, size matters to most people in their own particular way, but it's just one very small part of a way bigger picture as far as the intricacies of sex are concerned. TBH you both sound quite young and very immature with your mutual fixation on penis size, and I'd be more concerned about my partner sharing intimate details of my relationship with her mate as fodder for gossip than anything else if I were you. I'd consider that a massive breach of trust to be honest. How would she like if you were divulging information about how tight/loose she was, or her cup size?

AsianIrish

Dude, get real and enjoy what you have been blessed with. You are the most important person in her life she is sharing her life with. It is what you two do together matters the most. We human always runs after what we do not have and often forget about what we have.

My advice, forget about her X and make her happy so she keeps coming back to you.

Chemical Byrne

Totally man, her X is her X for a reason.

It's a total weird fest that you compare your dick to her ex's dick.

Celly Smunt

Girls haven't a clue generally when it comes to measuring penises. They'll say that they want a twelve incher which is in reality probably a 6. As a 7 incher myself and not too far off yourself I've never heard of a complaint about my size other than being asked to be slow at the start of sex. Moral of the story, you have a grand sized Langer and you can use it better than him so what's the big deal?, sure there's more to sex than a big penis, the majority of good sex for a girl happens before you even go in.

Chemical Byrne

Celly, just out of interest what is the correct way to measure your penis? Like to have any sort of reliable comparison there should be a standard method of measurement so that you are comparing like with like. Does anyone know if such a method exists?

Slightly humourous but one aul fella a know said one time that it is the same as measuring a cat's tail, you have to measure from the hole!

Celly Smunt

Chemical Byrne wrote: »

Celly, just out of interest what is the correct way to measure your penis? Like to have any sort of reliable comparison there should be a standard method of measurement so that you are comparing like with like. Does anyone know if such a method exists?

Slightly humourous but one aul fella a know said one time that it is the same as measuring a cat's tail, you have to measure from the hole!

What I did years ago in graphic detail:

Make it grow
Point it down
Lay a ruler on top lightly pressed against the top of your pelvis (or what ever its called? The place below the belly).
And measure to the tip.

This will probably actually leave you about half and inch short of your actual length actually come to think of it if your going balls deep.

Taltos

Ok guys back on track here please. If you have no direct advice to the op please don't post.

Also, more importantly while for some the idea of the size or girth of a penis is a non issue I can assure you that to the OP this is an important matter and further posts that either directly or indirectly as that from Chemical Byrne which state it's a non issue will receive stern moderator action.

Littlekittylou

I am the only one to make her orgasm

Checkmate. Well done ;-)

She should never have said anything.

Judge the man on THE MAN.

I know it has been stressed that this is an issue for the OP. But I think what many people are trying to say that in reality it's not an issue for most women. It's not to demean your feelings but to try and reassure you.

Please try and feel comfortable with yourself.

Sex is much more about emotions and connections for women anyway. And it's really important for good sex for both of you to feel you are secure with one another.