Unmatching somebody on Tinder

Reebrock

So, I went on my first Tinder date yesterday. It went pretty well so I think I'll ask if she wants to see me again and maybe go for dinner next week. Yay!

Anyway, there are a couple of other girls on the App I've been speaking to. I don't really want to log in as "Girl A" will be able to see I've been on it and will probably think 1) I'm not that into her, 2) I'm talking to other women and keeping my options open.

Therefore, if I "unmatch" her or whatever the phrase is, will she be ab;e to see my profile anymore either through the messages we have sent (do the messages get deleted?) or will I show up in any of her searches?

Thanks

Realt Dearg Sec

She can only see that you've been on it if she's been on it. Does that make you worry that maybe she's talking to other people too?

I mean, it's tinder, being annoyed someone you just met on the thing because they're talking to others is like being annoyed that the coal delivery man is covered in black dust.

Well if she sees you've logged on, doesn't that mean she has too?

Fr_Dougal

There's only one thing for it, you need to burn Tinder down. Someone did it before, previously the site was known as Log.

It's science.

miamee

Nobody expects exclusivity after one date. If she sees you're online; she's online too.
If you unmatch her your conversation with her will disappear from both of your inboxes so she will know you've done that (if she's on the app at all). Might freak her out more than "he's been online"!

Reebrock

Deleted User wrote: »

Well if she sees you've logged on, doesn't that mean she has too?

Being paranoid, I'd put out that maybe she is going on to see if I've been on. Best case scenario.

Plus, if she sees I'm not on it, she may consider me serious potential rather than just, so so.

Reebrock

Reebrock wrote: »

Being paranoid, I'd put out that maybe she is going on to see if I've been on. Best case scenario.

Plus, if she sees I'm not on it, she may consider me serious potential rather than just, so so.

If she's stalking you after one date to see if you're chatting other girls then.....Run. Far.

Fat Christy

First world problems.

Reebrock

So.............

Any answers to the actual question?

jimb433

talk to who ever you want , date who ever you want , and if someone else don't like it TUFF ****, why should you lie about something, or be sly. just be straight with people

Reebrock

Reebrock wrote: »

So.............

Any answers to the actual question?

miamee already answered it, funnily enough, she's the mod of the online dating forum!

The Backwards Man

Reebrock wrote: »

So.............

Any answers to the actual question?

The whole interaction is erased. It's harsh but at least they know where they stand, you hate their guts or you don't want a load of turf or whatever.

Reebrock

Thanks all, over and out!

osarusan

Hi OP, I don't know anything about Tinder, but your question confused me a bit. Surely 'unmatching' Girl A will make it much more clear that you are not interested in her than just ignoring her?

Or are you happy for her to know you are not interested in her, as long as there will be not more contact between you (which you hope the unmatching will achieve)?

skittles8710

Unmatching her would make it very apparent you've something to hide.

Reebrock

osarusan wrote: »

Hi OP, I don't know anything about Tinder, but your question confused me a bit. Surely 'unmatching' Girl A will make it much more clear that you are not interested in her than just ignoring her?

Or are you happy for her to know you are not interested in her, as long as there will be not more contact between you (which you hope the unmatching will achieve)?

Well, we have each others numbers now and communicate through text now...

mfceiling

This thread is the reason why i'm so happy to have met my now wife in 2000.

The way all relationships should start...

In a dingy Irish bar, where both parties were absolutely p*ssed drunk and with the intoxicating background aroma of cigarettes, farts, stale body odour and booze stained carpets.

Un Croissant

Reebrock wrote: »

Being paranoid, I'd put out that maybe she is going on to see if I've been on. Best case scenario.

Plus, if she sees I'm not on it, she may consider me serious potential rather than just, so so.

Wants to be seen as serious potential.

Doesn't want her to know he's still chatting to other people.

beks101

You've known her five minutes, for all you know she's been on five other dates this week. Don't put all your eggs in one basket as it were.

Go on a few more dates and then decipher whether or not the whole thing has potential. In the mean time, stay on tinder and quit worrying what someone you met five minutes ago - who likely is still using it herself - thinks about you.

AnonoBoy

Deleted User wrote: »

miamee already answered it, funnily enough, she's the mod of the online dating forum!

There's an online dating forum?

Ok guys, see you all later, I'm off to eh.... do some work yeah.



Definitely not to trawl that online dating forum for a while.

Sure I don't even know that there is an online dating forum.

dashdoll

Question for the Tinder experts amongst us as Im a newbie.

If I turn off discovery so that my profile is hidden, does this mean that only guys that I have liked or 'swiped right' to, can still see me and match me (if they deem me to be hot enough!) or does it mean that nobody can see me.

Iv heard mixed reports!

Chijj

The last two posts in this thread were just awful

efb

christ us gays have it so much easier with grindr.

Fat Christy

efb wrote: »

christ us gays have it so much easier with grindr.

Is it not pretty much the same thing, only for gheys?

efb

Fat Christy wrote: »

Is it not pretty much the same thing, only for gheys?

gays? or gheys? wtf

Realt Dearg Sec

efb wrote: »

gays? or gheys? wtf

Gheys is the word homophobic people use to describe gays when they don't want to seem homophobic, because they think gay people are less offended by a misspelling for some reason.

Fat Christy

:rolleyes:

Yes I am homophobic. So homophobic. Also Realt, I didn't know you were a psychologist.

Macavity.

OP, you take the app too seriously. There is no need to unmatch her unless she is harassing you. She probably has hundreds of other matches. She won't care.

Realt Dearg Sec

Realt Dearg Sec wrote: »

Gheys is the word homophobic people use to describe gays when they don't want to seem homophobic, because they think gay people are less offended by a misspelling for some reason.

Or else it's just a harmless internet word? Personally I find being referred to as "the gays" (like we're all the same) a lot more irritating than "teh gheys" (which at least is used with tongue firmly in cheek).

Cupcake_Crisis

Realt Dearg Sec wrote: »

Gheys is the word homophobic people use to describe gays when they don't want to seem homophobic, because they think gay people are less offended by a misspelling for some reason.

No it's not. I would jokingly use that word and am not homophobic in the slightest.

Renegade Mechanic

Cupcake_Crisis wrote: »

No it's not. I would jokingly use that word and am not homophobic in the slightest.

But I'm so outrageously homophobic, I eat bananas with a knife and fork, and I use the word, soooo.....

Cupcake_Crisis

Renegade Mechanic wrote: »

But I'm so outrageously homophobic, I eat bananas with a knife and fork, and I use the word, soooo.....

You really can't afford to be homophobic tbh, with your looks, personality and general bad hygiene you should really be leaving every window you possibly can open.

Chancer3001

Just lie.

Unmatch her and tell her you've deleted your account if she asks.

Renegade Mechanic

Cupcake_Crisis wrote: »

You really can't afford to be homophobic tbh, with your looks, personality and general bad hygiene you should really be leaving every window you possibly can open.

Gheys have very high standards, actually. Why only half of them get any

Katgurl

Surely after a date communication will move away from tinder and towards maybe whatsapp or something? Then slowly slowly move towards texts and one day a phone call.

If she makes any comment about you being logged in you should be very wary. It's been one date!

Realt Dearg Sec

Fat Christy wrote: »

:rolleyes:

Yes I am homophobic. So homophobic. Also Realt, I didn't know you were a psychologist.

Jesus it was a joke, relax.

Fat Christy

Realt Dearg Sec wrote: »

Jesus it was a joke, relax.

Oh the irony. Is it a joke now because you didn't get the support you were looking for?

And, I, personally don't find being called homophobic funny in the slightest.

Generic Dreadhead

Fat Christy wrote: »

Oh the irony. Is it a joke now because you didn't get the support you were looking for?

And, I, personally don't find being called homophobic funny in the slightest.

The rainbow coloured avatar is just a front! :pac:

Realt Dearg Sec

Fat Christy wrote: »

Is it a joke now because you didn't get the support you were looking for?

And, I, personally don't find being called homophobic funny in the slightest.

No it was a joke because obviously I wasn't actually calling you homophobic...I thought that was clear but obviously some things don't convey in text.

Whether it was a funny joke is another matter. Clearly it wasn't, but I'll live with that failure somehow and pick up the pieces of my life.

Now to see if I can back out of this conversation as quickly and inconspicuously as possible...too late? OK...

Desolation Of Smug

Fat Christy wrote: »

Oh the irony. Is it a joke now because you didn't get the support you were looking for?

And, I, personally don't find being called homophobic funny in the slightest.

Christy! I believe you may be Ohmophobic. You Miss, are an Ohmophobe. Shocking. Resistance is futile. Renegade is just Omophobic - he never washes his clothes.

Miall108

Fat Christy wrote: »

:rolleyes:

Yes I am homophobic. So homophobic. Also Realt, I didn't know you were a psychologist.

Fat and Homophobic? Are you a fascist aswell Christy?

Fat Christy

Desolation Of Smug wrote: »

Christy! I believe you may be Ohmophobic. You Miss, are an Ohmophobe. Shocking. Resistance is futile. Renegade is just Omophobic - he never washes his clothes.

Explain please. Ohmophobe - What is this?

Miall108 wrote: »

Fat and Homophobic? Are you a fascist aswell Christy?

Yes and I wear black and go round telling people what to do.

tomwaterford

Fat Christy wrote: »

Explain please. Ohmophobe - What is this?



Yes and I wear black and go round telling people what to do.

An irrational hatred of ohms???
The unit to measure resistance :pac:



I dunno actually...

Miall108

Fat Christy wrote: »

Yes and I wear black and go round telling people what to do.

I bet your a firm believer in discipline in the home too