House, men, family, friends, job the lot

LegacyUser

This is probably going to come over as a very self pitying post, but any words of comfort would be appreciated.

It is nearly five am an I haven't been to bed as my body clock is all over the place, as is my eating, 8 st this am and I'm 5 ft 7. Not sleeping any more than 4 hours any night.

I lost my job three years ago, which was a very good one at 100k p.a. Spent one year treating as a holiday and since then been applying for jobs left right and centre. Keep getting down to last two.

My mortgage is paid up but I can't keep on for much more - to be honest am surprised lasted as long as I have. Meeting with bank tomorrow.

Found out in late 2014 that my boyf had got a girl pregnant (also a good friend of mine). I miss him so much - and hate him so much. Haven't seen them since.

I'm the only child in Ireland, have no family support here. No cousins, aunts nothing. My dad is 80 and sick; my mam is away with her dad in usa and won't be back till May.

My best friend was the boyf (before it was that) and has disappeared. My other best friend's mam is sick and is tied up with that, and my next best friend has ivf going on and there is no talking to her.

My biggest achievement last week was taking the bin out. Really. I have a first class honours degree and masters.

Any advice

teresa

kylith

Sign up for Fas courses and CE schemes and/or volunteer and/or enrol in a class. When I was unemployed the difference that simply having something to get up for in the morning made to my mental state was amazing. As well as that prospective employers can see that you're actively looking to better yourself and involved in your community and you'll have a current reference for your CV.

Tina82

you need to get out of the house and start mixing with people before you go further down a slippery slope.... FAS course is a good idea....or go back to study part time while your looking for work... you must have been very good at what you were doing with a salary of 100k......pick yourself up...leave the past in the past...don't let it screw up your future...

DUB0207-old

Try join one of the meet up groups, even 1 night per week will be good to put your face out there and chat away. At first I thought these things were only for the under 30, how wrong I was. They have options for all age groups.

Perhaps join a language exchange group. Its always a good idea learn a new language, only adds extra value to your CV. There's a big demand for French/German spearkers in Dublin.

Dont isolate yourself the way you are. Please, mind your mental health.

Anything else contact turn2me - they offer online counselling.

Rubberchikken

i agree with the other posters.
you need to look after your health, body and mind.

start getting involved in something that interests you, while still job hunting.
good luck

DUB0207-old

Think of you OP... I hope everything is ok!