Creepy or is this ok??

irishguy1983

Went to spinning class Monday night - got chatting to this cute girl who I got the feeling was single....I think...We only chatted for ten mins in total...

Anyway I may never see her again...

I plan to go back to spinning class Monday night to see if she is there...Lets say she ain't there Monday but I know she is planning to go back at some stage...

Would it be ok to say to the instructor 'Could you pass on my number and name to Josie and tell her id like to meet for a drink'.

Is that too creepy? Or is it ok?!!I wouldn't normally do this but I can't keep going to every spinning class in the hope she is there! Spinning is brutal and that was first and last ever class I'd say!

Stench Blossoms

Don't do it. The gym is not a dating agency and you'd be putting the instructor in an awkward position. It's their place of work.

Wait until you see her again.

tinkerbell

OP, perfect excuse to get really fit is to just keep attending the spin classes! :pac: You'll eventually see her again. Oh and don't ask the instructor to do the dirty work for you, completely inappropriate.

irishguy1983

OK - thanks folks - never thought of it from that angle - that kind of settles it in my head.

MagicMarker

The only thing that would be creepier than that is setting up a camp outside the gym, sitting in a folding chair with a flask of tea for days on end waiting for her to go to the gym.

beks101

I'm usually all for asking a girl out in a casual setting, but ugh something about the gym is just NO for me.

I go to the gym to alleviate the stress of a hectic job and totally switch off and not have to care about my appearance etc, it bugs me when guys think of it as some kind of dating avenue and cross that boundary.

I guess the only thing to do is to hope she rocks up again and get chatting again but I wouldn't advise asking her out/for her number on the spot. Personally that makes me feel awkward and self conscious and I know many women who feel the same. Maybe try to build up a rapport and subtly try to gauge if she is actually single before asking her out.

Littlekittylou

irishguy1983 wrote: »

Would it be ok to say to the instructor 'Could you pass on my number and name to Josie and tell her id like to meet for a drink'.

Hi OP.
You can't keep going to spinning class hoping to meet her. Nor can you pass out your number like that. You can't hook up with every girl you have to let her go. Maybe try once more then just move on.

Besides most gyms now actually have a protocol for this type of thing. It happens a lot.

I think get to know her a bit first. If you don't want to just let it go. I don't get this I must give this person my number because I may never see them again thing. There are LOADS of people I will never see again. That's because they are not in a position to get to know me personally and that is how relationships start it's how you build connections.

If you see her again try and have a coffee with her and chat see if you connect. Then ask for her number. Don't be afraid to let one go. You can't be best mates with everyone!

GaGa21

Does the gym have a facebook page? She might be linked to it, you could message her and ask her out that way?

seamusk84

GaGa21 wrote: »

Does the gym have a facebook page? She might be linked to it, you could message her and ask her out that way?

#creepy

arayess

seamusk84 wrote: »

#creepy

i disagree , if he has spoken to her already it's perfectly valid.
It would be creepy if they were complete strangers and it was a random request.

irishguy1983

Thanks for the advice folks

Would be totally inappropriate to ask gym instructor.

I'll pop along to another class or two in the hope I bump into her and maybe have a chat

I think thread can be closed now

swiftman

MagicMarker wrote: »

The only thing that would be creepier than that is setting up a camp outside the gym, sitting in a folding chair with a flask of tea for days on end waiting for her to go to the gym.

Reminded me of

Going back to the gym where I first saw you
Gonna camp in my sleeping bag I'm not gonna move
Got some words on cardboard, got your picture in my hand
Saying, "If you see this girl can you tell her where I am?"
Some try to hand me ,protein bars they don't understand
I'm not unfit– I'm just a broken-hearted man
I know it makes no sense but what else can I do?
How can I move on when I'm still in love with you?