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Massive crush on someone I work with

  • 06-02-2015 05:59PM
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,012 ✭✭✭✭


    Hi all, so I'm sharing my dilemma in the hopes that someone else has been in the same shoes as me or can give me a little perspective...

    Background:
    I have a fiancé and he is wonderful. I love him dearly, we have a great relationship and we are getting married early next year. I am very happy with him and the prospect of marrying him.

    So...
    About a month after I got engaged to my fiancé (1-2 months ago) I started talking a little more to a guy in work and developed a silly crush on him!
    I thought this would fade away quite quickly but its been weeks now I cannot seem to shake it!
    When I talk to him or see him in work I get that ridiculous feeling you get in your tummy when you're a teenager and you fancy someone.
    I'm not a teenager, I'm in 30's and I feel ridiculous...

    I do not know what is going on with me or why this has happened.

    I come home from work sometimes and this person is on my mind, remembering things they said, or how they looked that day. It's insane!
    I really wish I could get this to stop but I cant seem to control it.

    Could this be some kind of strange reaction to the fact that I'm getting married, like cold feet or something? Has anyone else experienced anything like this?

    Please help!

    Thanks.


Comments

  • #2
    Matteroffact
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 457 ✭✭Matteroffact


    This is normal OP. Just because you are getting married doesn't mean you have blinkers on and cannot feel attracted to anyone else. This guy is making work more exciting and that's about the height of it. It is all magical guessing what he might be thinking and wondering "what if" but realize that if you both actually got together it may not be as romantic as it seems. You have a tried and trusted relationship going on with your fiancé so I wouldn't be tempted with the unknown if I were you.


  • #3
    FurBabyMomma
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 774 ✭✭✭FurBabyMomma


    I'd say a bit of a reaction to your engagement. The crush in itself is harmless - unless you decide to act on it.


  • #4
    AsianIrish
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 93 ✭✭AsianIrish


    Normal i would say. In fact a thrill at work does not harm anyone. Just do not go further.


  • #5
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,012 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    Having been in the same position as you and following my crush and losing my engagement and the love of my life i can simply advise you (from my own perspective) dont do it. Go get married if you love your boyfriend and if the worst comes to the worst, look for a work transfer or another job. You can replace a job but its difficult to replace what you had with your fiance.

    Good luck!


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