Am I on Restricted List on Facebook?

ecdav

This is my first time to post here so I hope I'm in the right forum. (If not, can someone let me know please.) I have a question about facebook.
It came up on my homepage that it was my friend's birthday. I went to her profile page to post her a happy birthday and I noticed there were no other individual birthday posts from any of her other friends.
I then noticed there was a link on her profile page that brought you to where all her friends birthday wishes had been grouped together but when I clicked into the link to see their birthday posts, a message popped up to say I had no access to that content.
Does this mean my friend has put me on a list that has restricted my access to her posts?
Does anyone have any opinion on what has happened here? I'm not that put out about it, but at the same time I'd still like to know ... thanks!

endacl

Ask your friend?

ecdav

I'd rather not be that direct ... don't want to embarrass her if she restricted me for some reason.

1357

I know you said you're not that put out about it, but you are a little. Don't be. Don't worry about it. Who gives a sh*t? I would say just assume there's a glitch in Facebook's software and not give it another thought. You just keep being you and don't worry about sh*t...

I left Facebook a few years ago. VERY, VERY FREEDOM!

jimmii

If they had you on some sort of restricted list I doubt you would even have seen it was their birthday. If you need reminding its their birthday you should probably just unfriend them.

ecdav

I know you're right, I shouldn't be bothered about it. She's not even a close friend but it's just bugging me as to why she would do that when I know I haven't done anything that warranted it ... that is if that IS what has happened as I'm still not sure ...

ecdav

I don't want to unfriend her as I'm not even sure if she HAS restricted me.
Although I can't think of any other reason why I wouldn't be able to see some of her posts.

jimmii

I would be wary of anyone who has their birthday public I mean why would you do that? The people who care about you are going to know when it is.

It sounds like they have set up a close friends list that you aren't on but the birthday privacy setting is still set to public so you can see the birthday but initially not the close friends messages. Something like that anyway.

jimmii

ecdav wrote: »

I don't want to unfriend her as I'm not even sure if she HAS restricted me.
Although I can't think of any other reason why I wouldn't be able to see some of her posts.

If you're such good friends that you don't want to unfriend them then probably just ask them in real life.

chrisb1

Well if she is not a close friend why worry about it besides she might have all on her page restricted Or unfriend her if she notices then confront her about it nicely and see what she has to say
like above poster I left facebook years and haven't looked back that site could start a war I sure of it

ecdav

Yeah it appears that way ... and that's okay if that's what's happened. It's her prerogative. I wouldn't unfriend her for it though - that's not the kind of person I am ... I can live with it

1357

ecdav wrote: »

Yeah it appears that way ... and that's okay if that's what's happened. It's her prerogative. I wouldn't unfriend her for it though - that's not the kind of person I am ... I can live with it

That's the spirit!! Maybe someone else can offer a definitive answer for you - but in the meantime, everything is grand! Not a single sh*t was given today.

ecdav

Haha! Yeah all is good - I was just curious that's all ... thought someone might have some definite insight into it. Seems like it will just be one of those "we'll never know" answers ...
Thanks to you all that took the time to reply anyway - I appreciate it

Hanzhong Road

I experienced this exact situation today. I posted a facebook message at maybe 12:20 last night, and his birthday was over at midnight but I noticed there was no other messages on his home feed. I figured that was no big deal as it might be "old news" and facebook tends to lump birthday messages together. Normally I can see all the other messages if I click that or some link like it. Anyway he replied this morning and I went back to see if other people left messages and although I read that 15 other mutual friends had wished him a happy birthday, I wasn't allowed to see their posts?!

ecdav

Well at least I know now it's nothing to do with my settings if it happened to you too. I guess there are some posts and info she only wants to share with close friends and family. I wonder can she still see all of my posts then?

jimmii

ecdav wrote: »

Well at least I know now it's nothing to do with my settings if it happened to you too. I guess there are some posts and info she only wants to share with close friends and family. I wonder can she still see all of my posts then?

Depends if you have changed your settings or not. You can select whether it goes to the public, just your friend, just your close friends or if you want just you! When you make a status update click on the box next to post and it will give you all the options. I sometimes make posts on things only a few people I am friends with would know about so I just select them instead of filling up everyones timelines with more rubbish they don't care about.

ecdav

Yeah I know that - I do that too ... was just wondering if someone restricts your viewing of their posts does that automatically in turn restrict them from seeing yours. Maybe that's not how it works I dunno ...
I'm not going to over analyse it ...
I guess there are some people that want to know everything about you but don't want you to know anything about them.
But I'm too polite to unfriend anyone

jimmii

ecdav wrote: »

Yeah I know that - I do that too ... was just wondering if someone restricts your viewing of their posts does that automatically in turn restrict them from seeing yours. Maybe that's not how it works I dunno ...
I'm not going to over analyse it ...
I guess there are some people that want to know everything about you but don't want you to know anything about them.
But I'm too polite to unfriend anyone

That would basically give you control over someone elses privacy settings but sure with facebook these days who knows! Unfriending someone isn't impolite unless you actually know them if you do unfriend this person it seems unlikely they will notice.