afraid to go to Doctor

LegacyUser

The last time I was with a girl I couldn't get an erection. I know I should go to the doctors s but I'm afraid of what the doctor will or if there will be an examination. I also don't have sexual experience (very little) for my age and I'm afraid to tell the doctor this. Another thing I meet be meeting a girl this weekend and I don't know what to do about her? Put it off?

giggle84

Is this the only time you've had this problem? Because if it is then relax, it happens all the time and is not a big deal! If you were drinking that might explain it, or it could have been nerves. I wouldn't be rushing to the doctor just yet or putting this girl off, if it happens again just explain that you're feeling a bit nervous or under pressure and she'll understand!

The_Valeyard

Had you been drinking at the time OP? Many a man has gotten the 'Druids drop' with alcohol on them. Other than that could just be nerves causing a panic in you, little bit of confidence will sort that out. If you think it is medical, then see a doctor and get your testosterone checked to put your mind at ease. Docs are well used to this, no need to be afraid.

LegacyUser

no it was the 2 times i slep with someone. 2 differrent girls. the last girgavre l me her phone no but I never did phone her because of this and that was about 2 months but I think she'll be around this weekend I'm supposed to meet another girl in the next day or 2   I'm pretty sure its not physical but mental but the thing I'm worried about is what the doctor actually does

I'm not looking for medical advice or want this thread to closed but could someone me a clue to what happens ive already cancelled 2 appointments

Roselm

ffhjjvdghnjjbv wrote: »

no it was the 2 times i slep with someone. 2 differrent girls. the last girgavre l me her phone no but I never did phone her because of this and that was about 2 months but I think she'll be around this weekend I'm supposed to meet another girl in the next day or 2   I'm pretty sure its not physical but mental but the thing I'm worried about is what the doctor actually does

I'm not looking for medical advice or want this thread to closed but could someone me a clue to what happens ive already cancelled 2 appointments

Well even if you went to the surgery and they wanted you to do something you were not comfortable with they cant force you do anything.
They will tell you what they are going to do before they do it at which point you say no if you don't consent to it.
But really they are most likely going to ask you questions about when it happens and what happens.They might ask you to drop your trousers to examine you but they arent going to ask you to get an erection or anything.

strobe

ffhjjvdghnjjbv wrote: »

no it was the 2 times i slep with someone. 2 differrent girls. the last girgavre l me her phone no but I never did phone her because of this and that was about 2 months but I think she'll be around this weekend I'm supposed to meet another girl in the next day or 2   I'm pretty sure its not physical but mental but the thing I'm worried about is what the doctor actually does

I'm not looking for medical advice or want this thread to closed but could someone me a clue to what happens ive already cancelled 2 appointments

Sounds like you want viagra/cialis? It doesn't give you an erection, just keeps one when you have one. But if you're prepared to walk around with an erection until you get to the sex part of the evening, but can't face a face to face meeting with a doctor, then Llyods pharmacy will post out prescriptions to people that take an online q&a. But it just sounds like you psyched yourself out man. Maybe try focusing on extended foreplay, kissing touching, oral etc, before getting down to the main event. Should relax and arouse you and ease the pressure off and let things function as they should in due course.

LegacyUser

Its the examination I'm worried about not the surgery. Also what happens if I meet a girl this weekend?

dudara

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Also what happens if I meet a girl this weekend?

How about you not have sex with her? Just have a nice date, maybe a kiss if things go well.

LegacyUser

dudara wrote: »

How about you not have sex with her? Just have a nice date, maybe a kiss if things go well.

There's two girls one I meet be meeting for a few drinks it wont really be a date more a meet up we have mutual friends and would probably be drinking in their company it won't really feel like a date if that make sense. If I don't sleep with her or sleep with her and nothing happens she tell might tell people

Also I met another girl at a gig a few months ago and never got in touch with her because of this but we slept in the same bed that night until the next evening but I still couldn't get anything I'll probably run into her this weekend at a similiar gig. She might ask why I never contacted her. Also if I meet what do I do? She might want to come back to mines what do I say? If she isn't at the gig is it too late to get in touch with her? I lost her no but I could contact on Facebook but I only met her once and I'm not friends with her on facebook

Also I came from a family that fought a lot growing there was no real affection or closeness and I find it to get close to people maybe that is the reason

Roselm

You sound so panicked. I think you need to take a step back and breathe.
Take this one step at a time. You are thinking a million steps ahead of yourself. People going home together doesn't always end in sex anyway. You can fool around/have a kiss and take it handy.
If you're worried about sleeping with the girl then maybe don't go home together. Just hang out for the evening in the pub/club or whatever, get her number.

To answer you actual concern. You go to the doc and explain your problem. He will ask you questions about how you feel, being nervous etc. He will ask if you masturbate and if you achieve a full erection during that. He may or may not examine you.
He will discuss the issue with you and give you good advice. Don't worry at all about seeing your doctor. He sees guys with your exact problem lots of times so you shouldn't be embarrassed about discussing it with him. It's his job and he is professional. Please don't cancel your next appointment.