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Is it over?

  • 26-01-2015 6:01pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    I don't know where to start really. Thanks for taking the time to read this if you can.
    Im very confused and down/ depressed. I have been depressed since before x mas and I don't know if it is my relationship that is bringing me down or not.
    I ve had a string of abusive relationship s in the past and this relationship has been the most loving and caring I have ever known. So what is wrong?
    We are constantly nitpicking at each other the last 5 weeks. I have no interest in anything or going to social events. I cry every time I go to the bathroom in work. I am so confused as to if I am depressed and its affecting my relationship or if my relationship is affecting me. I don't know what to do. I go to counselling but my counsellor is off at the moment and its against the rules to see two apparently.
    How do I know if my relationship is bringing me down or if I am just depressed. Do I need to take a break from him to see if it is him. I don't ever have a chance to miss him.
    Something inside of me tells me I am not capable of a healthy loving relationship due to my history and that this is just a disaster waiting to happen..............(we have been together 5 years)...


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  • #2
    Oryx
    Subscribers Posts: 19,425 ✭✭✭✭Oryx


    The two issues are intertwined, you need to get to the root of your depression in order to straighten out your thoughts on this or any relationship. A symptom of depression can be withdrawal from others and an inability to love, of course it would affect things. But it doesn't matter which caused which, the solution is the same. Treat your depression. Take some space from your partner, but explain why. Sure its a risk that you might lose him but there's always risks in life. If in your gut you wonder if he is part of the problem then space is essential to figure that out.

    But first, get help for how you feel. You need that urgently.


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