I hate my body

LegacyUser

I'm a 25 year old girl, 5 ft. 4 and a bit overweight, not stones overweight but fat all the same.
I used to be extremely skinny and fit but then things changed drastically. I had a baby, became a single mother and packed on the pounds due to a combination of emotional eating and a bunch of different kinds of strong anti- depressants which all have high weight gain as side-effects.
I hate looking in the mirror because I look disgusting, I hate going out because everyone I know is skinnier and prettier than me. I'm definitely the "fat one" in my family.
I've been healthy eating and exercising for quite a while now and instead of losing weight, I'm getting fatter. I feel really depressed about it and it's extremely disheartened. I feel like I'm doomed to be a fatty for the rest of my life.
Is there any hope for someone like me?

kjl

I think the main thing for people to remember is 150 min of moderate exercise per week. Bring the baby out in a stroller and walk at a quick pace for maybe 20 mins every day.

Look at your diet a little closer. If there much sugar in it?

When you are working out if you do muscle workout you get heavier not fatter because your muscles are getting bigger and they weigh more than fat.

But the first step is to love yourself again. As you said yourself you are only slightly overweight and you just had a baby, so where is this self hate coming from. Perhaps it would be good for you to talk to a counselor about your self image.

Chucky the tree

Ihatemybody wrote: »

I'm a 25 year old girl, 5 ft. 4 and a bit overweight, not stones overweight but fat all the same.
I used to be extremely skinny and fit but then things changed drastically. I had a baby, became a single mother and packed on the pounds due to a combination of emotional eating and a bunch of different kinds of strong anti- depressants which all have high weight gain as side-effects.
I hate looking in the mirror because I look disgusting, I hate going out because everyone I know is skinnier and prettier than me. I'm definitely the "fat one" in my family.
I've been healthy eating and exercising for quite a while now and instead of losing weight, I'm getting fatter. I feel really depressed about it and it's extremely disheartened. I feel like I'm doomed to be a fatty for the rest of my life.
Is there any hope for someone like me?

You're obviously not doing it properly then tbh. Has you visited a personal trainer or any professional in the area?

marizpan

It's 80% diet and only 20% excercise.

If your still gaining weight while trying to eat healthy, then your diet and/or portion size is wrong.

Download the app : myfitnesspal

And be honest with yourself and weight portion sizes until you get a better idea of them.
Best of luck

Fluorescence

Are you still on those anti-depressants? If you're eating well, appropriate size portions, and doing your bit of exercise as well it might be worth going to have a chat with the GP and seeing if you can find medication more suitable for you!

DeclanJWhite

You should try and go easy on yourself.

If you see someone on the street with a few extra pounds - or you're socializing with someone who isn't clothed in the perfect flesh but is friendly with a nice smile - do you think they are disgusting? Or do you not rather think they are a lovely person, and lovely to look at, both because a nice person reflects many charming physical traits just by being a nice person and also because all shapes and sizes have their beauty.

I mean to say, you see this with your own eyes and thoughts when you look on others, no? Then why treat yourself so much more harshly than how you look at others? What is the point in doing that? Do you not deserve to give yourself at least as much loving kindness as you give to others? At least as much!

neemish

Some meds are impossible to lose weight on. All you can do is live as healthily as you can, get some exercise and go easy on yourself. In addition to anti-deps, are you getting some counselling? If not, go back to your GP and ask for a referral.

And if you want some extra support loosing weight, I hear slimming world is good and has achievable goals.

bp

I am sure you are not as big/ unattractive as you think. Find something that you like (e.g. eyes, smile etc) and find it everyday.

Also look at your diet - smoothies, juice diets, some yogurts are all full of sugar - fruit should be eaten whole and as part of a meal as it releases natural and healthy sugar - but sugar none the less. Make sure it's brown bread, rice, pasta etc and porridge (just the plain old flavahans) with fresh fruit for breakfast.

Walk everyday with your child - it will be physically and mentally good for both of you and please don't be hard on yourself, you are doing your best

Rubberchikken

get that buggy out and walk. not just strolling round but serious milage. not only is it good for the body it's great for the mind.
you'll come back from it and after a short while your energy levels will be high.

you're looking after your child yourself and that's tough. do you have any support?