create your own wedding ceremony?

willow tree

Has anyone created their own ceremony? Was it difficult, what did you do? We're looking at a humanist but is it worth €450 for half hour ceremony (of course I know they put in more work than the ceremony). Any other options? Thanks

A2LUE42

willow tree wrote: »

Has anyone created their own ceremony? Was it difficult, what did you do? We're looking at a humanist but is it worth €450 for half hour ceremony (of course I know they put in more work than the ceremony). Any other options? Thanks

Do you just want a ceremony or a legal ceremony? Or are you debating whether you want a HSE ceremony or a humanist one?

Milly33

Well you can just do your own as you say. You have all the basics already of what the humanist or civil ceremony involves and ye could just take it from there. We were only talking last night about the cost of it, we are going civil and having her come out and even paying for that were kinda like if we need to cut back on it, we will do...

I have the print out of what the civil office gave us as the basic's for the ceremony and also went to two humanist ones I could let you know what they done..

willow tree

Well we'll decide this week. I just thought we've to pay hse €200 no matter what for the legal part. Now they won't come out to our venue so we could have the legal part ourselves a week previous in the civil offices (but just as the legal part us & 2 friends) then have a nice ceremony in the venue the day of our wedding. Is it worth having an experienced celebrant, I want it to be special but we are on a tight budget. Thanks for your thoughts.
Molly that would be fantastic.

pooch90

We wrote our own for our ceremony. Didn't do the legal stuff separately, our Spiritualist celebrant did the whole lot.
Please don't be put off by the Spiritualist title as many others are, it wasn't a big ode to the deceased!

I can send it on to you if you'd like to PM me your email address?

berrecka

We wrote every word of our Humanist ceremony. Our celebrant gave us samples of previous ones she had preformed. We used them as a template, we wrote the words together, picked the (3) readings, choosing the songs for our family to sing was the toughest bit for us - and Bobs yer uncle, we created our own individual and meaningful ceremony. It was all done in a few evenings, sipping wine in the garden, listening to nice music and reading romantic (and some funny) verses - so worth it.

pwurple

I've been at ceremonies where the couple did it themselves, with no celebrant, or had a friend be the celebrant. They had done the legal part separately.

I do think a celebrant is handy, just to move things along. A friend with some public speaking experience is ideal. Those work really well, it's lovely, very personal too.

Where the couple did it themselves with no celebrant I think maybe they felt slightly silly? It dissolved into giggles a couple of times, and guests were heckling/interrupting. I don't think that would have happened with someone to conduct the ceremony.

Milly33

Id be thinking no but then that is just my opinion it depends what ye want really.

I know if it came to it and our lady said she could not make it out there on the day, I would be fine with asking my brother or my uncle or sister to do the ceremony. But they are nice speakers and used to it so that's fine.

Would do the same as you say, if she could not do it or if it ended up we really needed the 225 for something else I would not have her come out and either go in the day beforehand or the week after or if we could in the day itself and register.

I think if you do have someone you could trust and who is a nice speaker you are flying it, go for it. But if you are stuck for someone then maybe it is just as handy to pay someone to do it

willow tree

Ok it would be really awful if people saw it as jokey & heckled or if it was awkward. Just 450 could cover some food for guests but we'll just have to work it out. Thanks for the feedback :-)

willow tree

pooch90 wrote: »

We wrote our own for our ceremony. Didn't do the legal stuff separately, our Spiritualist celebrant did the whole lot.
Please don't be put off by the Spiritualist title as many others are, it wasn't a big ode to the deceased!

I can send it on to you if you'd like to PM me your email address?

I'll pm you now.

Milly33

If they are friends and family I am sure they would not think that way

Gatica

It costs at least 400 to have someone do your ceremony so iff it's worth for you saving the money by having someone you know do the ceremony instead of a Humanist or SU, then go for it. If you know someone who's a good speaker, then all you need to do is write out a ceremony. That part shouldn't be too hard as they tend to be pretty standard.

I can PM you one we used and you can modify it however you like.

nearzero

We had a humanist ceremony - fully legal etc and he sent us samples of ceremonies, so we took that as a template - and we wrote the rest of it ourselves, picked our readings/music and worked in our symbolism the way we wanted it for the rings etc, it turned out wonderful!

Everyone said it to us it was unique & really heartfelt. Even our photographer said she cried & she has been to alot of weddings I wouldnt change a minute of it - it was brilliant! And all the better because we did it all ourselves

willow tree

Ok. Thanks everyone for your thoughts. I do think we could do it & Thanks especially to anyone who sent me their ceremony. I think its worth having an experiencee & professional person guiding us so just to figure that out, humanist I'd say.

Robyn_14

Hi everyone and Willow sorry to jump on your thread, I think this is a great idea-would you guys mind pm'ing me ceremonies too?thanks so much

pooch90

robyn pm me your email address and ill send you on the one I sent to willow.

A2LUE42

pooch90 wrote: »

robyn pm me your email address and ill send you on the one I sent to willow.

ditto

Seb_bixby

I'd love you to pm then to me as well!