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Invasion of privacy

  • 12-01-2015 9:10am
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    Over the past few weeks I've been suspicious of my girlfriend checking my phone. I've been getting one or two snide remarks that haven't sit well and I noticed my phone was moved on a few occasions. I decided to download the app got ya to see if this was the case and unfortunately it has proved to be true. The app takes a picture if the person enters the incorrect pattern, low and behold there's around 5 pictures of my gf.

    I don't know what to do or how to approach her on this. We've been together for 2 years in what I thought was a healthy relationship, I would never cheat or give her concerns that I am. I'm totally pissed by this as it's a total invasion of privacy & she knows I wouldn't look at hers. I wouldn't even go thro her bag if she asked me to get her something from it.

    What do you think I should do or how should I approach this?

    Thanks for reading


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  • #2
    skallywag
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 3,022 ✭✭✭skallywag


    You could make sure that she sees the pictures of herself which were taken then next time she tries it, and note her reaction afterwards ...


  • #3
    Big Bag of Chips
    Administrators, Society & Culture Moderators Posts: 14,910 Admin ✭✭✭✭✭Big Bag of Chips


    Casually say to her... Were you looking for something on my phone the other day? You are not accusing her of anything, for all you know she might have been trying to look up a phone number.

    So just be casual, explain to her about your anti-theft app and that's how you know she tried to unlock it.


  • #4
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    Thanks for the replies, I will say it later to her & see what she says. My biggest problem is that this happened around 6 months ago but l let it slide that time as I thought she just needed reassurance & that it wouldn't happen again. I did say to her to never do it again as it shows distrust and I would never do anything like it. Am I just fighting a losing battle and she'll never trust me?

    Like I said I've done nothing untoward but it's annoying being questioned & having my private stuff invaded. I've nothing to hide on my phone but at the same time no one should be looking at it and what I say to family & friends


  • #5
    Shrap
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 3,163 ✭✭✭Shrap


    Privacy issues 123 wrote: »
    My biggest problem is that this happened around 6 months ago but l let it slide that time as I thought she just needed reassurance & that it wouldn't happen again. I did say to her to never do it again as it shows distrust and I would never do anything like it. Am I just fighting a losing battle and she'll never trust me?
    Some people are very insecure, for their own reasons OP. Also, it may be that she is worried that her feelings for you are a lot stronger than your's for her, and that can breed its own kind of paranoia - yes, I'd say she does need reassurance and plenty of it, if you do love her. She may go through bouts of needing to hear the right things from you. If that doesn't settle her, then maybe you could say she'll never trust you.


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