Yet to have a fight

A_Sober_Paddy

So I've been going out with my GF for a tad over 7 months. We spend a lot of time together, there have been spells were she's stayed at mine for 5 days on the trot.

Since our first day there hasn't been a day in which we haven't texted each other or else we are with one another.

And yet we've not had a fight about anything, we've both a moments were we've got a little stroppy with one another about something stupid, but nearing a fight...

I find it a tad weird...is it normal to find it weird?

This is just a thread to see if my weirdness about not having fought is odd, i'm very happy with my GF

bp

A_Sober_Paddy wrote: »

With my other half ten years and we don't fight - the odd grumpy 30 mins but no fighting. Be happy and don't stress about not fighting

tinkerbell

Why are you looking for problems where there are none? Just be happy that clearly your relationship is well matched and stop trying to find fault when there is none. I'd be more concerned why you think fighting in a relationship is normal.

Ave Sodalis

It's not that odd, I've been with my boyfriend 13 months and never even came close to having an argument. I've never questioned it to be honest. It is as it is. Some people don't fight for a long time, some people don't ever fight, some people fight every week. Sometimes it means something, sometimes it doesn't. No relationship is the same so there's no point comparing yours to anyone else.

A_Sober_Paddy

tinkerbell wrote: »

Why are you looking for problems where there are none? Just be happy that clearly your relationship is well matched and stop trying to find fault when there is none. I'd be more concerned why you think fighting in a relationship is normal.

Well i come of a home were parents split up, fought a lot and at time one of them speaks **** about the other...

Also a few of my mates who are in long term relationships tends to have regular fights...

So for me i maybe seen it as a part of the relationship cycle...

I have no interest in looking for a fight either

power pants

maybe you are not a confrontational person or your partner and it suits you both to just agree all the time, even if you don't.

Tokyo

Sounds like you are both just well matched, both in interests and in temperament. However it's also worth knowing that even so, you both have the pressure valve of being able to go back to your own worlds fro a little bit in the evenings, which is likely a healthy contributor to your stress free lifestyle. That may change if you ever decide to move in together (I'm a firm believer that you don't know someone until you've lived with them), so be glad of the fact, nothing more

Est28

A few points from eperience:

- If the relationship is good then really there shouldn't be any fights. Not that you agree on every single last thing but more like... you have enough commonalities that every little thing isn't a conflict and when there IS conflict, you tend to just both give your opinions and come to a compomise as to what to do. I think it's a good healthy relationship.

- It's NOT normal to completely agree 100% on every single last things. But it doesn't have to lead to a fight. If you're both mature adults, you should both be able to air your thoughts and a conclusion met, no fights.

- Be sure you're both not actually just holding back on airing your views to avoid trouble. This isn't so healthy either. I think at 7 months you should both be able to talk and speak your mind. Don't put on an act just to avoid conflict, if you feel it WILL lead to an actual fight, that's NOT so healthy.

- Lastly... do you guys ever discuss that "we've never had a fight! So great!". I ask beacuse I once had a GF like that, we never fought for 6 months, she seems to be in tune with everything I did and said and constantly brought up how awesome it was we never fought. Great I thought! Well... after that things went downhill. Basically the fact that she brought this up, was a big red flag. She WAS to sort to pick fights constantly and eventually absolutely lost her mind at EVERYTHING but tried to hide it early on. It's like one of those things where the people who usually say "I don't do drama" are those addicted to drama... otherwise it wouldn't even need to be stated.

fits

We don't fight either. In fact he did something last week which would have had the red mist descending if it had been anyone else, but I didn't even feel a bit angry. (it was something unnecessarily dangerous with an animal). I just asked him not to do it again and I know he wont.

Dog of Tears

fits wrote: »

(it was something unnecessarily dangerous with an animal).

Bullfighting?

cactusgal

I'm in the best relationship I've ever had with the best guy I've ever gone out with. One of the things that makes it so great is that we don't fight.

My parents never fought, either. It's definitely the way to do it. For me, anyway!

dudara

Look, any relationship, no matter how good, will have argumentative moments. But in a healthy relationship, they should be minor and addressed quickly. Big, all-out, flare-up rows/fights are not healthy.